Have you ever had an on-going sexual relationship with an ex spouse?

[Anonymous]

Wow. I never have had sex with my ex, and never wanted to.

I'm good friends with my ex-husband, and when our child was younger, we used to hang out a lot. We each had our own partners, and all got along well. I always wondered why his new wife suddenly decided he shouldn't hang out with me anymore. Considering how common ex-sex seems to be, I can see her point, even though in this case there's zero chance of it.

Aside from the ick factor, it's just outright cheating.

[Anonymous]

Most don't do this fyi.

For those that do it's another dysfunction probably among many in their life.

[Anonymous]

NP, interesting to see that I'm in good company. I lived/slept with my ex-husband two years post divorce. Once I moved out I slept with him for an additional year on and off. The sex was good, but a big draw to the ex sex was me being to lazy to date. I think more people have done it than are willing to admit. Just because a person is a complete jack ass does not take away the fact that they have that "good good".

[Anonymous]

I wish I was having sex with my ex. I also still love her.

[Anonymous]

Would like to hate-f__k my ex, but she lives in rural PA now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I was having sex with my ex. I also still love her.

Go have sex with ten other women and you'll be over her.

[Anonymous]

I have considered it in very dark moments when I was lonely that way because sex was great with him but I always felt disgust at the thought. So I have not done it but can understand people who do.

[Anonymous]

The cheating part is the real problem. You clearly both have serious issues if you consistently lie to your current SO and cheat on them.

[Anonymous]

As a mostly happy married person - mostly because DW has low libido and our married sex life aint great - I can't even wrap my mind around the concept that people who were having great sex ended up divorced. So great was the sex, in fact, they came back for more post-divorce.

If I end up divorced, I would have sex with everything not-my-wife.

Mind. Blown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I divorced 5 years ago. It was amicable. We don't have kids, then or now.

I'm single, nothing serious at the moment, but have had a couple serious relationships since our divorce

My ex wife is in a long term relationship with a woman.

We sometimes go as long as 4-6 months without any contact between us at all, and then we'll talk a few times, meet up, have sex, and then not communicate again for months. We are both unfaithful to our past/current respective partners, with each other. We have no desire to be married again, or see each other more than a handful of times a year, for sex.

My wife has explained it by saying she just misses having sex with a man, but doesn't want to date a man or stop seeing her partner. She says I'm a known commodity. As for me, well, she's still very attractive to me, and we always clicked sexually, so it works for me for the time being. I have no idea how long it will continue, but I've been unhappy with myself for being unfaithful to the women I've been in relationships with.

This will end at some point, I suppose.

Has anyone else ever had a relationship like this with an ex spouse?

Nope, but not having sex was a big reason why my ex and I broke up. Is your ex in an open relationship with her girlfriend? If so, I don't see the big deal. If she's cheating, that's not cool. Do what works for you (and your other partners).

[Anonymous]

Sad are the people whose ex cheated. Then after the divorce you demean yourself by still having sex with the cheater.

No wonder so many have STD's.