DH decided at 5 to go to HH last minute

[Anonymous]

If there are no children in the picture, I would just let it go.

After all, it IS Friday.

But if you do have kids together, I would be pissed off.

A lot.

[Anonymous]

Waiting for what?
Did you have previous plans he blew off?
Is this a pattern of behavior?

Surely it's not dinner.

Even if you had small kids I would let this go if this was a one off .

[Anonymous]

I picture OP sitting waiting by the front door with her food bowl in her mouth.

[Anonymous]

He's cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this at all. If dh texted me this I would say "great have fun. On our own for dinner right?". Then I would have ordered take out and poured myself a glass of wine and watch a show dh doesn't enjoy.

You seem codependent, needy, and dim

Really, you're able to make that judgement based on four sentences? Hope you're not that judgmental in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I picture OP sitting waiting by the front door with her food bowl in her mouth.

I picture a 40-year-old man in his underwear typing these nasty responses while sitting in his room in his mother's basement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He texts me at 5:30 saying he was going out with his coworkers "for a little bit."

It is now 9 and I am still waiting. I am annoyed to be kept waiting.

well happy hours are 5-7pm max so he should have mentioned later it got upgraded to dinner or a game, etc.
I assume you don't have kids, then planning is a must or someone gets dumped on last minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a co worker who has a really nutty girlfriend who complained about the exact same thing you are right now--literally she was like "I GUESS I'LL JUST HAVE CEREAL" at 9PM (he told us all about the fight). We all think she's an insane, controlling psycho. Do you want to be that girl?

Both your coworker and his girlfriend lack boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If there are no children in the picture, I would just let it go.

After all, it IS Friday.

But if you do have kids together, I would be pissed off.

A lot.

What difference do the kids make? I'm not following your thought process here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this at all. If dh texted me this I would say "great have fun. On our own for dinner right?". Then I would have ordered take out and poured myself a glass of wine and watch a show dh doesn't enjoy.

You seem codependent, needy, and dim

Really, you're able to make that judgement based on four sentences? Hope you're not that judgmental in real life.

np: I arrived at a similar conclusion. OP doesn't seem very self-sufficient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a co worker who has a really nutty girlfriend who complained about the exact same thing you are right now--literally she was like "I GUESS I'LL JUST HAVE CEREAL" at 9PM (he told us all about the fight). We all think she's an insane, controlling psycho. Do you want to be that girl?

Both your coworker and his girlfriend lack boundaries.

What does it matter, I am sure that relationship isn't going anywhere. No one marries someone like OP if they knew they'd be batshit beforehand.

I am a wife with small kids and don't understand why some of you would make this a big deal. I'd frankly declare movie night for the kids and curl up with a book and a glass of wine. I far prefer that to going out after a long week but my DH is more social. He would have gone out last minute last night but decided he was tired. I don't care as long as he is responsible and not too hungover to participate in weekend family events. He doesn't need "permission", I am not his mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If there are no children in the picture, I would just let it go.

After all, it IS Friday.

But if you do have kids together, I would be pissed off.

A lot.

What difference do the kids make? I'm not following your thought process here.

Because it leaves one parent to do bedtime duty. If they have small kids, that's a job that requires all hands on deck. It's a dick move to blow it off without any communication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I picture OP sitting waiting by the front door with her food bowl in her mouth.

I picture a 40-year-old man in his underwear typing these nasty responses while sitting in his room in his mother's basement.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a co worker who has a really nutty girlfriend who complained about the exact same thing you are right now--literally she was like "I GUESS I'LL JUST HAVE CEREAL" at 9PM (he told us all about the fight). We all think she's an insane, controlling psycho. Do you want to be that girl?

Both your coworker and his girlfriend lack boundaries.

PP here. Sorry, if you're going to act like a complete psycho, you deserve to be gossiped about. I think you're overusing the word boundaries here too. I know it's a huge DCUM buzzword so you probably like to throw it out there whenever you can. But what about her being a total psycho b*tch "lacks boundaries"? And so what if he talks about her? She's nuts. If you don't act like an insane person your boyfriend won't be compelled to vent about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a co worker who has a really nutty girlfriend who complained about the exact same thing you are right now--literally she was like "I GUESS I'LL JUST HAVE CEREAL" at 9PM (he told us all about the fight). We all think she's an insane, controlling psycho. Do you want to be that girl?

Both your coworker and his girlfriend lack boundaries.

PP here. Sorry, if you're going to act like a complete psycho, you deserve to be gossiped about. I think you're overusing the word boundaries here too. I know it's a huge DCUM buzzword so you probably like to throw it out there whenever you can. But what about her being a total psycho b*tch "lacks boundaries"? And so what if he talks about her? She's nuts. If you don't act like an insane person your boyfriend won't be compelled to vent about you.

How long have you been sleeping with her boyfriend?