Facing raising a toddler, wanting to expand family and sick parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the reason many people want kids so that they have someone to take care of them when they are sick and older? At least that's what everyone tells me when I say I don't want kids. Who will take care of me? Time to step up, OP.

Did you miss the part where he wasn't there for her?

[Anonymous]

OP. I moved home soon after I had my first child due, in part, to guilt about my father's cirrhosis and certainty that he would soon die.

I've since moved away despite heavy doses of guilt (both from my parents and self-imposed). That was seven years ago and my father is still alive. Not to say yours will live on and on, but you never know what will happen.

Also, you may want to try Al-Anon. Best of luck to you.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the others -- don't delay on having a second baby. I would suggest that you offer your father a place in your home on a trial basis. You can phrase the offer as seeing if it works for everyone. He may be a more committed family member now that he is older. OR -- he may still be drinking and be terrible to live with. It would be great to have a loving grandpa around for your kids. BUT if he can't be a decent person to live with, you cannot sacrifice your kids and your life for him.