College aged DD sad that she has not found a good guy while her friends have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My college aged DD was in a serious relationship up until a few months ago. The guy betrayed her and turned out to be a completely different guy than he portrayed himself. He moved in with and got engaged to another woman while dating my DD! She is obviously better off without him, but the pain of betrayal is till there.

For the most part she is focused on school and career goals - she has a very bright future in front of her and in on the path to success. She is involved in a lot of clubs and activities.

Lately most of her friends have been getting into relationships or getting deeper into relationships. She is getting down about being the only single one. She is applying to grad schools and has a strong chance of getting in to her top programs.

When she opens up her heart to me with things like, "why did I waste so much time with him?," or "What is wrong with me - why can my friends find good guys and I cannot?" I really don't know what to say. She is attractive, smart, and is personable.

I just hate seeing her down on herself and don't know what to say. Thanks for any help here!

She's your daughter. Help her focus on her school and career goals. Relationships will come and go at that age....your role is to make her understand that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would expect OP to post this in the Parenting or Family forum and her DD to post it in the Relationship Discussion. Having mom posting this in the Relationship Discussion is kind of weird.

You know when that little voice inside your head said: "don't post that, you sound like an asshole."? You should have listened. Go post this on the "board police" forum.

[Anonymous]

I can only think of one or two couples that met when they were in college. DW in couple 1 cheated on her DH a few years later, although they stayed married. Couple 2 met during their college years, have three kids, and fight constantly.

The rest of my friends met and married in their late 20's through 30's and seem much happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect OP to post this in the Parenting or Family forum and her DD to post it in the Relationship Discussion. Having mom posting this in the Relationship Discussion is kind of weird.

You know when that little voice inside your head said: "don't post that, you sound like an asshole."? You should have listened. Go post this on the "board police" forum.

I feel like (A) it probably falls more in that category (B) the people in that forum are less obnoxious and more likely to give helpful responses

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would expect OP to post this in the Parenting or Family forum and her DD to post it in the Relationship Discussion. Having mom posting this in the Relationship Discussion is kind of weird.

Maybe she's hoping to find a well-off late 30s divorcee to fix her daughter up with.