What to do about lazy boyfriend?
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Anonymous
It might change if you move out. I wouldn't hold my breath, but you know what you have to do. |
Anonymous
+1. My STBX was lazy before we married, I just never saw it until we got married and moved in together. When I came over, he would always cook for us and clean the whole house. Projects got fixed right away. But it was only a facade he kept. Actually, this happened twice to me. My first husband -- I found out later that it was his dad who made sure his bills were paid, truck was clean, and that he presented as having his shit together. When my STBX and I had DD, even when I was pregnant, all that laziness meant I did most of taking care of house, yard and child. There was always some excuse why he didn't or couldn't help. He mostly surfed the internet. But when we were friends, he was out volunteering with me all the time. If the money will always be there from his family, that is good. I would not be okay with this either. I came from a family with high work ethic also. Because of your work ethic, you will get more resentful when the kids come, because maybe you were taught that we are all suppose to do what needs to be done. Have you talked to your family about this? What did they say? My family has been through hell, and they would want me to be happy. They know what lazy partners do. |
Anonymous
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OP you must end this. You don't respect him (and I 100% don't blame you!)
I know breaking up will be tough but the world awaits you! There are tons of guys out there with your level of ambition. 
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Anonymous
| Move on. He's lazy and spoiled and will not change. Yes there will be family heat but it would be much worse if you married him, had kids and finally dumped him. Take the heat now and move on. You will easily find someone more to your liking. |
Anonymous
| If you don't like it now you are going to want to stab him with a fork later. It's over. Move in |
Anonymous
| Move ON not in. |
Anonymous
| Run as far away as you can. I married a lazy Italian man and it's not good. Save yourself the heartache. |
Anonymous
THIS!!! |
Anonymous
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Move on. He's been enabled his whole life and it won't change. And you'll really resent it when you get home from your demanding job to find your lazy husband surfing the web and the house a mess and the kids watching the iPad. You'll not respect him (already you don't) and that will take its toll on your sex life and that will spiral downhill.
Move on. You also need to date new people. Few people marry their HS sweethearts and have it work out. When they do its because of shared values. You do not share some basic values. |
Anonymous
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What if he were to find what interests him? I think that's a possibility. Would you be happy then?
Idk, if you will both always have enough money, who cares if you have to outsource everything and you are the breadwinner? Also, he must be good at something. |
Anonymous
| Does he not have a job? It wasn't clear to me. |
Anonymous
| Staying with the person you started dating in high school is the epitome of laziness. |
Anonymous
| IMO, marriages where the wife is more ambitious than the husband don't usually work. Eventually, she gets resentful that he doesn't push himself as hard as she does, he doesn't make as much as her girlfriend's husband's, etc. I've seen this same story a thousand times. |
Anonymous
| I vote DUMP. |
Anonymous
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Would he like to be a SAHD? Would he be good at it? Or too lazy for that.
I'd probably move on. Your resentment is only going to grow over time. |