22 month old screaming at bedtime for hours

[Anonymous]

Omg get your kid. That's so sad. Are you 100% sure it isn't an ear infection? My poor baby at 23 months did the same thing for a week. Except I stayed up holding him and had him sleep with me. He had no cold and no fever. I took him to get his ears checked after my friend insisted and he had tons of fluid in his ears and a terrible ear infection that had spread to the bone behind his ear. He ended up in the hospital and having surgery with tubes put in. Please take your child to get his ears checked tomorrow. And tonight let your baby sleep with you and be comforted.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the other posters. Please get your kiddo.

[Anonymous]

Both my kids went through this stage. My first ended up learning to escape the crib, so we switched her to a bed. The second child didn't jump out but I saw her put her leg up a few times and was afraid she would get hurt, so I switched her to a bed at that time also. Then trained them both to be secure in their beds using the sleep lady shuffle.

[Anonymous]

Two of my kids did this right around this age. We moved the younger one in with the older one when it startedbabd sge stopped quickly. They want someone there to sleep with now. Do what you can. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

He's probably going through something developmental right now and needs reassurance. I would do whatever works for now. In a few weeks, re-evaluate.

[Anonymous]

Jeez, folks are really skewering OP. My kid has slept through the night in his own crib since he was three months old. Cosleeping didn't work for us, bedsharing never would have worked for us. I would let him go for 15 min, go in and check on him and run his back and tell him it's time to sleep and that you're just in the next room and will see him in the morning. And then let him do what he needs to do until he falls asleep on his own. Sounds like you've ruled out teething or illness or any other issue that would require intervention. Probably just a developmental thing hat hopefully will pass soon. My 18 month old had had a few nights recently where he cried and couldn't settle down for around 30-45 minutes. It was hard to hear him so distraught but going in and picking him up and trying to soothe him didn't help at all, and probably prolonged his distress. As long as you are sure nothing is wrong with him I would let him be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeez, folks are really skewering OP. My kid has slept through the night in his own crib since he was three months old. Cosleeping didn't work for us, bedsharing never would have worked for us. I would let him go for 15 min, go in and check on him and run his back and tell him it's time to sleep and that you're just in the next room and will see him in the morning. And then let him do what he needs to do until he falls asleep on his own. Sounds like you've ruled out teething or illness or any other issue that would require intervention. Probably just a developmental thing hat hopefully will pass soon. My 18 month old had had a few nights recently where he cried and couldn't settle down for around 30-45 minutes. It was hard to hear him so distraught but going in and picking him up and trying to soothe him didn't help at all, and probably prolonged his distress. As long as you are sure nothing is wrong with him I would let him be.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeez, folks are really skewering OP. My kid has slept through the night in his own crib since he was three months old. Cosleeping didn't work for us, bedsharing never would have worked for us. I would let him go for 15 min, go in and check on him and run his back and tell him it's time to sleep and that you're just in the next room and will see him in the morning. And then let him do what he needs to do until he falls asleep on his own. Sounds like you've ruled out teething or illness or any other issue that would require intervention. Probably just a developmental thing hat hopefully will pass soon. My 18 month old had had a few nights recently where he cried and couldn't settle down for around 30-45 minutes. It was hard to hear him so distraught but going in and picking him up and trying to soothe him didn't help at all, and probably prolonged his distress. As long as you are sure nothing is wrong with him I would let him be.

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The issue is lack of consistency, OP. Tell him you won't come in anymore, and then don't come in anymore. He needs to sleep. It's fine if you favor cosleeping or other measures, but it doesn't sound like they're working. My child was a bit older when she went through this, and it was horrible and I cried and fought with my husband and tried EVERYTHING, including cosleeping/bed-sharing. It did not work. She started tantrummig in the middle of the night when she was already in our bed, because we wouldn't get her a snack. In hindsight, we were totally inconsistent. It sucks but crying is the way they demand what they want. You as the parent draw the lines as to what they get.

[Anonymous]

Just sleep with him! Put him in your bed (why do you say you "can't"?) or get him a twin bed and lay with him until he falls asleep. He needs & wants you nearby. You all need sleep. No reason to make this harder than it is. They aren't little for long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you have a family bed. Or put his crib right next to your side of the bed?
This is a very smart human. Humans are not meant to be caged and put five miles
away from a mother in a dark room away from you.
Is this so hard to understand? He just want you. Mother, at his side,
for protection and safety. Children who sleeps next to their parents
are happier, smarter and have greater sense of security.

Baby animals sleep next to their moms. This is just as nature intended.
Would you like to sleep away from your husband far far away in the dark
end of the house? To this little baby it is horrific experience.
His brain is big enough to understand and he feels the horror.
You can damage him for life.

Yes I would. And I actually do. And we are crazy in love with each other. Probably because we both get a good night's sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you have a family bed. Or put his crib right next to your side of the bed?
This is a very smart human. Humans are not meant to be caged and put five miles
away from a mother in a dark room away from you.
Is this so hard to understand? He just want you. Mother, at his side,
for protection and safety. Children who sleeps next to their parents
are happier, smarter and have greater sense of security.

Baby animals sleep next to their moms. This is just as nature intended.
Would you like to sleep away from your husband far far away in the dark
end of the house? To this little baby it is horrific experience.
His brain is big enough to understand and he feels the horror.
You can damage him for life.

Yes I would. And I actually do. And we are crazy in love with each other. Probably because we both get a good night's sleep.

OMG a dark room all to myself for sleeping? That's my fantasy! I love my husband and children dearly but I do not want a family bed.

OP my DS went through this around 21 months - I just assumed it was a reaction to me being 9 months pregnant. I rocked him until he would fall asleep and put him in the crib. He usually cried when I left the room but only for a few minutes. I would probably give in and do whatever was necessary to get him to sleep in his crib, even if it means sitting in the glider in his room for an hour. I don't know if that's the greatest solution, but I can't have kids in my bed or I won't sleep.

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't you just stay with him until he fell asleep, or let him sleep in your bed? Poor kiddo sounds scared and lonely. It won't be forever.