How do you support someone when they do something stupid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think Carolyn Hax has a good response to this type of situation - but I can't find the column right now. Her advice is you get to tell your friend the truth once, in a kind way, that you don't think they should be with this person. Tell your friend that this is the only time you are going to say it, and if they want to stay in the relationship you will be there for them. That way you can give her a way out, but also not take yourself out of her life. She will probably need your help picking up the pieces.

I did this with a sibling who was dating a horrible person. It was difficult but I would definitely recommend this approach.

[Anonymous]

As her dear friend, you can be honest about your true feelings regarding this man.

However you should also, as her dear friend stand by whatever she wants to do whether you are in agreement or not.

That is being a real friend.