My Sister Points out what my house needs? Is she being helpful or hurtful?

[Anonymous]

"Please stop with your comments about my house"

You would not put up with it from a friend. Don't put up with it from family.

[Anonymous]

The next time she says something like this, I'd shake my head and say, "Yeah, Yeah, Yeah...nothing in my house is ever right according to you. Just leave it alone. I can take care of my own home, thanks."

[Anonymous]

Crabgrass advice is fine. Criticizing your baseboards' dustiness is not.

[Anonymous]

"Why do you come over here?" Your visits are a monologue of things you don't like or you think need to be improved. I'm very happy in my home. Tired if your negativity. Don't come over here anymore. Nothing here is going to change.

[Anonymous]

My sister in law and brother in law are kinda like this. They only point out negative things, never positive. We undertook a massive renovation a few years ago and the results were great - our architect got pics of the work featured in a few design publications. So SIL and BIL only ever remarked on items that needed work prior to the reno (which we didn't mind and agreed with because we had bought the house knowing that we'd be doing a top-down renovation and we're well aware of flaws). But after the renovation was finished? Not one word about the place looking nice or even different. The first time they came over after the work was finished, they just asked questions like - are you glad everything's done now? They also pointed out things to criticize - like that our new smartlock system was "hard to figure out" (it's not). I found their behavior pretty ofd but it's in line with how they are generally. For whatever reason, some people have a very hard time dispensing compliments or praise. But the negative stuff comes super easily. Thankfully, DH is not like his siblings in this respect - but I doubt I would have married someone who parses out positivity like it's a rare commodity to hoard.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like she has very little going for her if she's so fixated on housekeeping that she needs to put down the way you do it. I'd feel bad for her and just ignore her digs.

[Anonymous]

I would pass out the bingo cards the next time she did it I'd yell bingo and make a big joke out of how negative she is- it's her trademark.