My DH acts like the Devil when it comes to his kids from a previous relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For example,

His youngest son, who is 10, is coming to visit for March Break. I simply asked how long he is staying because I have to do overnights next weekend and I usually send my LO's to their nana's (I'm pregnant and the random overnights are killing me. I literally sleep from the time I get back home until near the start of my next shift). Anyways, I asked nicely...I didn't ask with attitude, I just simply wanted to know.

He suddenly says loudly, I haven't seen him in a long time, (his own fault) I'm not rushing him out of here. How would that sound, he has to leave on Friday because you work and have to sleep. Everytime my kids come down it's a problem (he seems to make it that way).

He's defensive about them for no apparent reason. I've never been notjing but nice to them. I watched them everyday, every Summer for 3 years and he talks to me like my opinion doesn't matter.

Plus, he asked me to buy them WWE tickets with my card. Even though he didnt invite me or our children...I did. I told him they came to $115. He turns around and tells me to take the money out of our Hydro bill savings. So, now he made me pay for their tickets. No thank you....

Am I the wrong one here?

It's not you. He's a jerk and projecting his lack of parenting and frustration onto you. That way he's off the hook. I was once in a similar situation. Take the $115. out of the joint account if you guys have one. It's not a Hydro bill is it!
Why do you have to watch this kid every summer??? Put them in a day camp or something. Being pregnant is a big one and trying to work. I wouldn't argue with him, but he needs to be the one to make sure someone is there to watch his child. That's on him. Do what you normally do, but put yourself and pregnancy first. He can go without sleep, etc. since he planned for this visit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would he not be looking after the kids - his, yours, etc - when you're working overnights?

AND PREGNANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Here I'll bite. He's a big Ahole! She needs to put herself and pregnancy first. Maybe she needs to go to Nana's for a nice spring break and rest, my recommendation.

[Anonymous]

I had one rule set in concrete:. Never get involved with anyone who has children from any kind of relationship because it is always trouble!

Unfortunately, you took on his children from another relationship, when you took him on. Personally, I'd tell him where to go.

[Anonymous]

Too many kids, too little money, that's the problem in a nutshell.
I have seen plenty of second wives who want to outnumber the first one in terms of kids it seems.... never a good idea.