The other woman or other man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My OM was WAAAY more attractive and in much better physical shape than my husband. No water held here.

It does not hold water for men.

You are probably not as educated, kind and attractive as his wife... Or his future wife, who ever he dedicates his life to, not just his fling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew her. I never suspected because she is mentally ill and looks like a man.

But he preferred her so....ouch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My OM was WAAAY more attractive and in much better physical shape than my husband. No water held here.

It does not hold water for men.

You are probably not as educated, kind and attractive as his wife... Or his future wife, who ever he dedicates his life to, not just his fling.

Betrayed wives win at life! They are the best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My OM was WAAAY more attractive and in much better physical shape than my husband. No water held here.

It does not hold water for men.

You are probably not as educated, kind and attractive as his wife... Or his future wife, who ever he dedicates his life to, not just his fling.

Well, that's not true. PP here who said I was less conventionally attractive than my AP's wife. But I know I'm more educated and kind than his wife. I knew her first, and never actually could get close to her. She's fake. She says one thing, but actually does or means the opposite. Ug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband's OW was about 50 pounds overweight and basically my physical opposite (I'm 5'2, large chest/rear end, brunette, brown eyes; she was 5'9, bleached blonde hair, flat chested and no rear end, grey eyes). I am objectively more physically more attractive.

But she was very effusive about him, constantly telling him how great he is, baking him cupcakes, etc. I was not as over the moon about him due to a variety of reasons that had arisen in our marriage. I think she made him feel amazing. I did not. There is no excuse for what he did and it may destroy our marriage completely, but I totally understand enjoying adoration. And he did the same for her. Must feel good to have someone shower you with constant compliments.

Haha, baking cupcakes for a married man. It is the lamest trick in the book for a woman desperate for attention.

Seems to me like she had his attention before the cupcakes. Sucks to suck, doesn't it?

[Anonymous]

Well, I knew her. We were friends. I just did not know that she and my ex DH were screwing around. Although in retrospect, it was obvious.

As far as looks, she is a gorgeous woman and I can see how men would be physically attracted to her. However because I was friends with her, I knew that she was emotionally damaged from childhood and tended to develop unhealthy attachments to any man who gave her positive attention. Ex DH found that out the hard way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband's OW was about 50 pounds overweight and basically my physical opposite (I'm 5'2, large chest/rear end, brunette, brown eyes; she was 5'9, bleached blonde hair, flat chested and no rear end, grey eyes). I am objectively more physically more attractive.

But she was very effusive about him, constantly telling him how great he is, baking him cupcakes, etc. I was not as over the moon about him due to a variety of reasons that had arisen in our marriage. I think she made him feel amazing. I did not. There is no excuse for what he did and it may destroy our marriage completely, but I totally understand enjoying adoration. And he did the same for her. Must feel good to have someone shower you with constant compliments.

Haha, baking cupcakes for a married man. It is the lamest trick in the book for a woman desperate for attention.

Seems to me like she had his attention before the cupcakes. Sucks to suck, doesn't it?

Okay, if you say so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband's OW was about 50 pounds overweight and basically my physical opposite (I'm 5'2, large chest/rear end, brunette, brown eyes; she was 5'9, bleached blonde hair, flat chested and no rear end, grey eyes). I am objectively more physically more attractive.

But she was very effusive about him, constantly telling him how great he is, baking him cupcakes, etc. I was not as over the moon about him due to a variety of reasons that had arisen in our marriage. I think she made him feel amazing. I did not. There is no excuse for what he did and it may destroy our marriage completely, but I totally understand enjoying adoration. And he did the same for her. Must feel good to have someone shower you with constant compliments.

I know the OW love to hear it, but this infuriates me. See how ga-ga she is and how many cupcakes she bakes after she has to live with him for a while. Of course it's enjoyable, when you're in a bubble where no one has any responsibilities whatsoever.

[Anonymous]

The fling my DH had - wouldn't call her an AP - was with an attractive woman. Very different look than me, so it's like comparing apples to oranges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband's OW was about 50 pounds overweight and basically my physical opposite (I'm 5'2, large chest/rear end, brunette, brown eyes; she was 5'9, bleached blonde hair, flat chested and no rear end, grey eyes). I am objectively more physically more attractive.

But she was very effusive about him, constantly telling him how great he is, baking him cupcakes, etc. I was not as over the moon about him due to a variety of reasons that had arisen in our marriage. I think she made him feel amazing. I did not. There is no excuse for what he did and it may destroy our marriage completely, but I totally understand enjoying adoration. And he did the same for her. Must feel good to have someone shower you with constant compliments.

I know the OW love to hear it, but this infuriates me. See how ga-ga she is and how many cupcakes she bakes after she has to live with him for a while. Of course it's enjoyable, when you're in a bubble where no one has any responsibilities whatsoever.

This is the crux of affairs. A fantasy land. No bills to pay. No sick kids to deal with. No piano lesson to hustle the kids to. Just a hotel room and great sex, probably in ways your spouse hasn't done in years if ever. The bottom line is OWs are often waaaaaay more sexually adventurous and sex-crazy than wives. Until they get married. Then they turn all that off. And get cheated on. And the cycle begins anew ...

[Anonymous]

My ex-wife was interested in any OM at work who was more powerful or more successful than she was. In other words, anyone who could give her career a boost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the crux of affairs. A fantasy land. No bills to pay. No sick kids to deal with. No piano lesson to hustle the kids to. Just a hotel room and great sex, probably in ways your spouse hasn't done in years if ever. The bottom line is OWs are often waaaaaay more sexually adventurous and sex-crazy than wives. Until they get married. Then they turn all that off. And get cheated on. And the cycle begins anew ...

OK, so the solution is for wives to have more enthusiastic and adventurous sex in order to keep their husbands!

(Cue furious tirades: "I'm too tired, he should do more housework, he's not entitled to my body, marriage is more than just sex, blah blah blah")

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband's OW was about 50 pounds overweight and basically my physical opposite (I'm 5'2, large chest/rear end, brunette, brown eyes; she was 5'9, bleached blonde hair, flat chested and no rear end, grey eyes). I am objectively more physically more attractive.

But she was very effusive about him, constantly telling him how great he is, baking him cupcakes, etc. I was not as over the moon about him due to a variety of reasons that had arisen in our marriage. I think she made him feel amazing. I did not. There is no excuse for what he did and it may destroy our marriage completely, but I totally understand enjoying adoration. And he did the same for her. Must feel good to have someone shower you with constant compliments.

I know the OW love to hear it, but this infuriates me. See how ga-ga she is and how many cupcakes she bakes after she has to live with him for a while. Of course it's enjoyable, when you're in a bubble where no one has any responsibilities whatsoever.

This is the crux of affairs. A fantasy land. No bills to pay. No sick kids to deal with. No piano lesson to hustle the kids to. Just a hotel room and great sex, probably in ways your spouse hasn't done in years if ever. The bottom line is OWs are often waaaaaay more sexually adventurous and sex-crazy than wives. Until they get married. Then they turn all that off. And get cheated on. And the cycle begins anew ...

That is exactly how it works. Why the 2nd marriage thing rarely works. One of my relatives left their spouse after 20 years. House paid, easy life but she stalked him and needed a financial plan. Big mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fling my DH had - wouldn't call her an AP - was with an attractive woman. Very different look than me, so it's like comparing apples to oranges.

If you're with someone that cheats at some point you have to be honest with yourself. You've picked a crappy spouse, be glad to be rid of them. I think many on here feel trapped because of kids and money.
Honestly how can you like someone after that or want to have sex? Yes a lot of trapped people it seems to me.

[Anonymous]

In honor of this thread, I plan on decorating my titties with cupcake icing for tomorrow's departmental meeting.