What amount of "not listening" is normal for a 6yo?

[Anonymous]

Sounds exactly like my son. I've resorted to making the command in as few words as possible and repeating them until he actually does it.

First time "Go upstairs to get your pajamas on, Larlo."

Larlo heads upstairs and enters room. Takes off shirt, begins perusing his Pokémon cards.

Second time "put on your pajamas!"

Larlo says "okay!" And takes off pants, then remembers he desperately needs to check on his millennium falcon.

Third time "Pajamas."
Fourth time "Pajamas!"
Fifth time "PAJAMAS."
Sixth time "PAJAMAS!!!!!!!"

"Jeez mom, why do you always yell at me?"

[Anonymous]

Do less micromanaging and pick your battles.

Turn on the light so you can do your homework? Is that something you need to make an issue of? You are building defiance into the system. Make a rule that homework gets done between, say, 5:00 and 6:00. Set up the conditions for the homework. Don't micromanage. Don't pick fights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds exactly like my son. I've resorted to making the command in as few words as possible and repeating them until he actually does it.

First time "Go upstairs to get your pajamas on, Larlo."

Larlo heads upstairs and enters room. Takes off shirt, begins perusing his Pokémon cards.

Second time "put on your pajamas!"

Larlo says "okay!" And takes off pants, then remembers he desperately needs to check on his millennium falcon.

Third time "Pajamas."
Fourth time "Pajamas!"
Fifth time "PAJAMAS."
Sixth time "PAJAMAS!!!!!!!"

"Jeez mom, why do you always yell at me?"

You are living my life, except my six-year-old says, "mom, I don't like it when you talk to me like that."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds exactly like my son. I've resorted to making the command in as few words as possible and repeating them until he actually does it.

First time "Go upstairs to get your pajamas on, Larlo."

Larlo heads upstairs and enters room. Takes off shirt, begins perusing his Pokémon cards.

Second time "put on your pajamas!"

Larlo says "okay!" And takes off pants, then remembers he desperately needs to check on his millennium falcon.

Third time "Pajamas."
Fourth time "Pajamas!"
Fifth time "PAJAMAS."
Sixth time "PAJAMAS!!!!!!!"


Same here. It is infuriating.

"Jeez mom, why do you always yell at me?"

[Anonymous]

"You can wear your ninja turtle pjs or your darth Vader ones"
*ignores*
"Turtles or darth vader?"
*ignores*
"Pokemon cards are gone. You may have them back when you are done getting dressed and brushing teeth"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds exactly like my son. I've resorted to making the command in as few words as possible and repeating them until he actually does it.

First time "Go upstairs to get your pajamas on, Larlo."

Larlo heads upstairs and enters room. Takes off shirt, begins perusing his Pokémon cards.

Second time "put on your pajamas!"

Larlo says "okay!" And takes off pants, then remembers he desperately needs to check on his millennium falcon.

Third time "Pajamas."
Fourth time "Pajamas!"
Fifth time "PAJAMAS."
Sixth time "PAJAMAS!!!!!!!"


Same here. It is infuriating.

"Jeez mom, why do you always yell at me?"

Every single night!!! And then she is always "starving." Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds exactly like my son. I've resorted to making the command in as few words as possible and repeating them until he actually does it.

First time "Go upstairs to get your pajamas on, Larlo."

Larlo heads upstairs and enters room. Takes off shirt, begins perusing his Pokémon cards.

Second time "put on your pajamas!"

Larlo says "okay!" And takes off pants, then remembers he desperately needs to check on his millennium falcon.

Third time "Pajamas."
Fourth time "Pajamas!"
Fifth time "PAJAMAS."
Sixth time "PAJAMAS!!!!!!!"

"Jeez mom, why do you always yell at me?"

You are living my life, except my six-year-old says, "mom, I don't like it when you talk to me like that."

I'm glad I'm not alone! I've read dcumers who say "I would never have to get to the second time, I am strict and my kids do what I ask when I ask" but they don't give concrete suggestions on how that has worked--at what age did they start consequences (or rewards?) at first compliance? What are the consequences for not listening the first time? Would truly appreciate the guidance from someone who doesn't have this problem.

[Anonymous]

Largely age appropriate. At 6, this was our life. 10 now. So much better. However, the fact that she seems to be unable to follow the routines in the classroom is concerning. I would try to have a chat with the teacher. It's also possible that the teacher is too demanding. At home, requirements regarding the choice of eraser and such will need to go. In our house, everything related to homework got a lot easier once i stopped bitching about handwriting.

[Anonymous]

I posted above, but you should really get your child evaluated. Could be ADHD or some other executive function issue.

[Anonymous]

I know that people are quick to jump on the "have her tested" bandwagon, based on a 2 paragraph post, likely written at the height of a parents frustration. But obviously stating the problem alone doesn't paint a whole picture. If you're concerned, check with your doctor, but there are a million other factors at play.

Ds struggled with listening when starting kindergarten. They kid couldn't sit still or listen to anything, it seemed. But after putting in place some behavior charts and adding more structure to weekends and cutting back on tv, he settled down really nicely. He was reacting to getting less attention and being expected to be more independent. It became clear that he was absolutely capable of listening given a little extra attention and more consistent ways of handling it. He doesn't have adhd, as I was being told here. He just needed some extra help setting expectations. Not every kid is going to "get it" in the same way.