Nephew is uneducated and ambitionless

[Anonymous]

My DD is in community college and holds a part-time job. Yes, she likes to hike and in the summer works as a camp counselor. What's wrong with that?

Have you even considered that the kid is just burned out?

[Anonymous]

My sister is college educated but a lazy ass. And she's a parent with no job, no partner (constantly yelling at the father of her child), don't cook, don't clean for anyone other then self, overuse of everything, bad parent, does not wake up until at least noon, don't even take the trash out, makes excuses for everything, displace all responsibilities on others. And the more she's out of work, the worse she becomes. Right now, her excuse is I have a child I need to take care of so I can't work. Whatever. My mom takes care of the kid at least 7 hours a day, so don't make excuses.
The other siblings? All responsible parents with kids and employed, even the one that was laid off got himself together in hope to get a new start.

So, it's a good thing your nephew has a PT job and makes no excuses for it. As long as he doesn't do drugs, don't drink alcohol, or gamble or hooked on porn, he will be ok.

[Anonymous]

Ask yourself why this bothers you so much. He's your nephew, not your son.

[Anonymous]

Not your circus. Not your monkey. MYOB

[Anonymous]

Is camping his true love? He wouldn't be the first kid in the world to move out west and get a job at a national park or at a ski resort or at a wilderness store. I have classmates from HS who did that 15 yrs ago - still out there. And while it isn't the life you aspired to if you grew up in the rat race of NJ (which is just like the DMV rat race), it isn't a horrible life either. They may have less monetarily but they're happy and 1-2 of them have actually become business owners - owning a bar and owning a wilderness store in sad mountain towns - not a bad living at all.

[Anonymous]

What business is that of yours?

[Anonymous]

So what equals success for you? Do you realize your aspirations may be very different than those he has for himself. If he happy? Is he hurting anyone? If his soul is at peace and he's not hurrying a soul, then who cares? Go get to know this kid, if you are so concerned. Contribute and create something positive.

[Anonymous]

Your nephew is in college and working.

My brother dropped out of college and never went back. He has worked many different jobs over the years and does not have a career. The rest of the family has gone to college, grad school and/or beyond.

My brother also likes to camp and goes on and on about things he finds important. They may change based upon something he saw online. He's much older than your nephew.

He's family. We accept him for who he is and we are there for him but are no longer trying to change him. He's also a fantastic uncle and my children love visiting him.

It's horrible that you are judging your young nephew and posting about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He'll get it together in a couple of years as his friends outgrow him (probably), and he'll be glad he took the time to have some fun.

Or, he'll get addicted to some substance, and that will be that.

Hope for the former.

Or he could just continue being happy living the simple life drug free.