Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Uncancel. Tell DH you're going anyway by yourself or with a friend. If he won't prioritize you then prioritize yourself.

+1. Go have fun.

This. Get your night out and DH can entertain his parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

STFU. OP has every reason to be upset. She went to a lot of effort to have a much needed night out with her DH. Yet, the moment her absent, unhelpful ILs want to come, her DH bails. Everything goes down the drain. Yeah, she's welcome to spew.

You are equally pathetic. When you have a baby you don't get to complain about not having a night out. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

STFU. OP has every reason to be upset. She went to a lot of effort to have a much needed night out with her DH. Yet, the moment her absent, unhelpful ILs want to come, her DH bails. Everything goes down the drain. Yeah, she's welcome to spew.

You are equally pathetic. When you have a baby you don't get to complain about not having a night out. Grow up.

Are you kidding me? Parents don't get to have a night out? We have to stay home every night till they leave for college?

Husband should have told parents to come another weekend b/ they already had plans. Clearly DH has an interesting dynamics with he parents.

[Anonymous]

It's cliche, but you have a DH problem not an inlaw problem.

Talk to your DH tell him your feelings as you did here, do not let this fester.

It sounds like you have a multitude of issues going on so work on them and don't take the view that your side of the family i golden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

Huh, interesting. I was thinking it's her husband who needs to grow up and be able to tell them how he feels and that he needs to prioritize his wife and new baby first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

STFU. OP has every reason to be upset. She went to a lot of effort to have a much needed night out with her DH. Yet, the moment her absent, unhelpful ILs want to come, her DH bails. Everything goes down the drain. Yeah, she's welcome to spew.

You are equally pathetic. When you have a baby you don't get to complain about not having a night out. Grow up.

It's not the baby that's messing withtheir plans. It's DH canceling instead of telling his parents they already had plans and suggesting a different date to come. She didn't complain about the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's cliche, but you have a DH problem not an inlaw problem.

Talk to your DH tell him your feelings as you did here, do not let this fester.

It sounds like you have a multitude of issues going on so work on them and don't take the view that your side of the family i golden.

Yes - it is not your inlaws fault they planned for the same night - it is your husband's for not speaking up! Don't shift the blame.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

STFU. OP has every reason to be upset. She went to a lot of effort to have a much needed night out with her DH. Yet, the moment her absent, unhelpful ILs want to come, her DH bails. Everything goes down the drain. Yeah, she's welcome to spew.

You are equally pathetic. When you have a baby you don't get to complain about not having a night out. Grow up.

Are you kidding me? Parents don't get to have a night out? We have to stay home every night till they leave for college?

Husband should have told parents to come another weekend b/ they already had plans. Clearly DH has an interesting dynamics with he parents.

Exaggerate much? The baby is 4 months old.

[Anonymous]

Err, if my DH was all "oh my parents are coming Saturday, what do you think?" I would have said "Actually that doesn't work, remember, we're going out. How about they visit next weekend?"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

STFU. OP has every reason to be upset. She went to a lot of effort to have a much needed night out with her DH. Yet, the moment her absent, unhelpful ILs want to come, her DH bails. Everything goes down the drain. Yeah, she's welcome to spew.

You are equally pathetic. When you have a baby you don't get to complain about not having a night out. Grow up.

Are you kidding me? Parents don't get to have a night out? We have to stay home every night till they leave for college?

Husband should have told parents to come another weekend b/ they already had plans. Clearly DH has an interesting dynamics with he parents.

Exaggerate much? The baby is 4 months old.

And op had a babysitter arranged. Not sure why you're so insistent on creating an issue where there isn't one. This isn't a baby-care problem.

[Anonymous]

She is complaining about the in laws who literally have NO CLUE that they had plans.

THAT is supremely childish. And stupid.

Stupid woman has child with stupid man - god help us.

[Anonymous]

So what's stopping you from going out? Grab a friend and leave DH with the kid and your ILs!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

STFU. OP has every reason to be upset. She went to a lot of effort to have a much needed night out with her DH. Yet, the moment her absent, unhelpful ILs want to come, her DH bails. Everything goes down the drain. Yeah, she's welcome to spew.

You are equally pathetic. When you have a baby you don't get to complain about not having a night out. Grow up.

Are you kidding me? Parents don't get to have a night out? We have to stay home every night till they leave for college?

Husband should have told parents to come another weekend b/ they already had plans. Clearly DH has an interesting dynamics with he parents.

Exaggerate much? The baby is 4 months old.

And op had a babysitter arranged. Not sure why you're so insistent on creating an issue where there isn't one. This isn't a baby-care problem.

Maybe it's been too long since we hadn't a martyr mommy thread?

[Anonymous]

Go by yourself, or take a friend. If he wants to drop everything because they want to visit, let him. But YOU don't have to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

STFU. OP has every reason to be upset. She went to a lot of effort to have a much needed night out with her DH. Yet, the moment her absent, unhelpful ILs want to come, her DH bails. Everything goes down the drain. Yeah, she's welcome to spew.

You are equally pathetic. When you have a baby you don't get to complain about not having a night out. Grow up.

Are you kidding me? Parents don't get to have a night out? We have to stay home every night till they leave for college?

Husband should have told parents to come another weekend b/ they already had plans. Clearly DH has an interesting dynamics with he parents.

Exaggerate much? The baby is 4 months old.

And op had a babysitter arranged. Not sure why you're so insistent on creating an issue where there isn't one. This isn't a baby-care problem.

Maybe it's been too long since we hadn't a martyr mommy thread?

Was just going to post this - you beat me to it!

"it's your baby and you look after it!"