How often do you speak to your in laws?

[Anonymous]

I talk to my in-laws about once a week. We call them or they call us on Sunday afternoons. I talk to my parents several times a week. I come from a huge family and there is always something going on.

[Anonymous]

We see her on major holidays. In between holidays, I never speak to her. My husband talks to her once a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How often did you chat or text with them before you had the baby?

DH talks with his parents most days, I talk to them on the phone extremely rarely. We do text a decent amount--usually us sending kid photos and them responding.

Before baby we would chat/text a couple times a week. And again I would mention they can come visit us anytime they want but they don't.

[Anonymous]

OP, is it possible they're trying not to bother you too much, trying not to step on your toes? I find myself holding back from contacting my DIL very often, because I fear being a pest. Also, I've never been one to speak frequently to my own parents or in-laws.

If you really want them to be in touch more, you reach out. Send photos, text, whatever. I'm sure they love getting the photos. Let them know you miss them and always like hearing from them.

[Anonymous]

Text, a few times a month. Call, only if a family emergency. My DH calls them once a week. I call my parents separately--once a week for dad, daily for my mom. My DH never talks to them either.

I like my ILs well enough but have no desire to chat with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is it possible they're trying not to bother you too much, trying not to step on your toes? I find myself holding back from contacting my DIL very often, because I fear being a pest. Also, I've never been one to speak frequently to my own parents or in-laws.

If you really want them to be in touch more, you reach out. Send photos, text, whatever. I'm sure they love getting the photos. Let them know you miss them and always like hearing from them.

OP here. I do reach out and I always feel like I always do they never do! I send many pictures of my son to them, I mention were free on which ever day...( my husband has flex Fridays so I tell them it's day off etc.) But as mentioned before I always invite them to our house they never visit. Or they never call or text me first. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

3 times in a week..

[Anonymous]

Me? Only when they visit or I absolutely can't avoid it because I'm in charge of some aspect of their visit.

My husband talks to them at the same time(they out him on speaker) every Sunday. If I have to be present for that call it makes my ears bleed because they spend half the time shouting "what?" At the phone since they never stand close enough to it while they have it in speaker. I have no idea if he emails or texts them outside of that.

[Anonymous]

FIl passed away a few years ago.
MIL and I haven't spoken in 14 years.
Luckily she lives 2500 miles away.
DH didn't speak to her very often until she got sick and he coordinates her care from a distance.
When she was near death, he flew out to see her. SHe has since recovered, but is doing home-hospice and their relationship is still strained.

[Anonymous]

Rarely now. MIL took BIL's side after he said something incredibly cruel to DH. I don't hate them but I feel unsafe around them and don't initiate interaction.

[Anonymous]

Hardly ever. I stopped reminding DH so it doesn't happen. If it's not important to him, I'm not stressing over it.