Friend refuses to respect boundaries

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Obviously if OP hasn't fully cut him off yet, she likes the attention to some degree. If it bothered her enough, he wouldn't be a part of his life and she wouldn't be posting this.

OP clearly feels sorry for a sad, lonely man. Nothing here indicates that she enjoys this attention, quite the opposite.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Obviously if OP hasn't fully cut him off yet, she likes the attention to some degree. If it bothered her enough, he wouldn't be a part of his life and she wouldn't be posting this.


Not OP but that's not true. Sometimes you have too much empathy for others and put their comfort and welfare above your own. Especially difficult to sever this type of contact if you've been raised to be respectful of your elders. It comes from not valuing yourself enough.
Anonymous
Alternatively, maybe the OP expected, as would a reasonable person, that when she told this man point blank that she's not romantically interested, he'd back off and they could be friends. She has given him time to get over his issue and adjust his behavior and he has not.

Not attention seeking. Not leading anyone on.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I know his comments are coming from a place of good but it creeps me out.


No they are not coming from a place of good. They are coming from entitled jerk land. This kind of crap never comes from a good place.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I know his comments are coming from a place of good but it creeps me out.


Place of needy clingy desperation you mean.
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