What did I do wrong?

[Anonymous]

Um.I think she told you what you did wrong. She politely and gently asked for more communication. Can you heed her advice?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Everyone who is giving me grief about sleeping with her "too soon" and not being ready for a relationship: are you also reading the part of my post where we both said we weren't looking for anything serious? We haven't even had a talk about exclusivity, let alone about, the future. Why do I bear all the responsibility in that regard? She seems to be changing her tune. I didn't force her to sleep with me.

[Anonymous]

Oh OP. I don't know if I'm in the mood for your particular brand of feigned cluelessness tonight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you liked her that much, you would text her more often than every 4 days. The red flag here is that you don't want to text her more..

+1 She's gently letting you know (while trying to keep the communication light by using emoticons) that she would like more communication. And there's nothing wrong with that. If you're on a different page, that's one thing. But there's no red flag in her behavior itself.

It sounds like you're feeling a bit defensive, but it doesn't sound like she was trying to be critical. She just might want a bit more interaction.

[Anonymous]

I think YOU are the red flag for freaking out over such a lighthearted text.

[Anonymous]

Every 4-5 days seeems like you don't care. Aim for every other day at least.

[Anonymous]

just text her a bit more...she asked nicely in a joking way...don't overthink it...just show you care.

[Anonymous]

She playfully let you know she would like more interaction with you. So if you want to continue getting to know her, text her more often. Call her to chat for 25 minutes here and there.

It you want to break it off do that, but don't be thinking you've been blamed or criticized for anything. Don't imagine you're a victim. It isn't sexy, and she'll notice.

[Anonymous]

*15 minutes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female here---I'm in a similar new relationship. We've been out on 3 dates but no sex yet. We've been seeing each other for about a month. Due to family and work commitments, more dates just haven't been on the table. This week has been terrible.

However, I wake up every morning to a hello text. I get a how's your day going text sometime in the middle of the day, and I get some sort of goodnight text.

He's not overbearing. But I know he's interested.

3 texts is a lot of work for a non-serious commitmentish relationship like the OP wants. I get that the OP's woman wants to hear from him more than once every 4 days but OP doesn't seem that interested in conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's just not that into you.

Opposite. She is into him, but doesn't want to be strung along with once or twice a week text convo's. I give her credit for articulating what she's looking for. Step up or step off, young man!!

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP. I don't know if I'm in the mood for your particular brand of feigned cluelessness tonight

+1
She hasn't changed her tune at all OP. She's letting you know, nicely, that she'd like to hear from you more often than every 5 days. Eff it up if you want to, but it will be because you're silly, not cause she did anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think YOU are the red flag for freaking out over such a lighthearted text.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How dumb are you OP

Screw you. I don't hear anyone suggesting SHE text him or increase her attention level toward him. You all berate and ball-beat him because he asked an honest question, this is why men don't ask women honest questions and NOR SHOULD THEY.

You are not entitled to a gravy train.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How dumb are you OP

Screw you. I don't hear anyone suggesting SHE text him or increase her attention level toward him. You all berate and ball-beat him because he asked an honest question, this is why men don't ask women honest questions and NOR SHOULD THEY.

You are not entitled to a gravy train.

Is she posting on this thread, you petulant baby?