was I unreasonable (re FIL and ASD child)

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds so annoying. I'd be mad too. People who don't live it day to day have no idea what it takes to just maintain a peaceful equilibrium in the house. Hope the rest of your holiday goes better. And hope your file comes around, or that when things are calmer you can help him understand. Not that it's your job, but that's just how it ends up.

NP here. I agree with your post but some grandparents and family never want to accept and try to understand. Grandparents especially do not like to admit there is disability in their family, particularly a mental one. The fact that FIL is going beyond tolerating to actually teasing his grandson despite your efforts at education would make him extremely difficult to socialize with as a family b

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. And now FIL just stomped off because DD wouldn't immediately share a new Hannukah present (a one person game) with him. It's like he's 5 years old.

Yes, he sounds like an immature asshole. End him.

Grandparents may have an idea of how holidays are supposed to go, then like all of us, they confront the reality of real people and real issues. They either rise to the occasion or act crabby and self absorbed.