When he turns it down

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:guy here. Pls dnt be offended by your mans behavior. Wife is an absolute knockout but I'm just bored having sex with her. I easily get up for much less attractive women. Guys just get bored screwing the same chick over and over, even if she is a 10.

Yuck! She is so lucky to have you in her life? Sex is an emotional attachment to someone before it is physical, especially in a marriage. If you don't crave that intimacy with her, she should know and you should leave.

[Anonymous]

Are you making your desire to get it on VERY clear? Maybe he's missing the signal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well what does he say? How does he explain it to you?

For us, this would be a sign that he's seriously pissed at me and/or cheating. He never turns down sex (except when sick). Even when he has a cold he's still after it.

Yup. DH has turned me down exactly twice in our 20 year marriage. Both times he was super pissed, and I was trying to sex my way out of it. Fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guy here. Pls dnt be offended by your mans behavior. Wife is an absolute knockout but I'm just bored having sex with her. I easily get up for much less attractive women. Guys just get bored screwing the same chick over and over, even if she is a 10.

Yuck! She is so lucky to have you in her life? Sex is an emotional attachment to someone before it is physical, especially in a marriage. If you don't crave that intimacy with her, she should know and you should leave.

NP here. Intimacy changes. Lifetime monogamy is not normal for the typical male hardwiring. It can lead to problems and trying to pretend it is easy to overcome mentally is denial. Admitting the situation and talking about it is the beginning of actual intimacy for many men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guy here. Pls dnt be offended by your mans behavior. Wife is an absolute knockout but I'm just bored having sex with her. I easily get up for much less attractive women. Guys just get bored screwing the same chick over and over, even if she is a 10.

Chris Rock has a famous bit about this.

I don't get it myself. You guys think women don't want novelty and/or a more attractive partner? But we're good at closing our eyes and fantasizing.

I actually think novelty and excitement are more important for women. Men can get excited even by seeing the same ass, because, you know, it's an ass. Women need a lot more and the same ol' crap ain't cutting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well what does he say? How does he explain it to you?

For us, this would be a sign that he's seriously pissed at me and/or cheating. He never turns down sex (except when sick). Even when he has a cold he's still after it.

Yup. DH has turned me down exactly twice in our 20 year marriage. Both times he was super pissed, and I was trying to sex my way out of it. Fail.

lol. Your DH is a man of principle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guy here. Pls dnt be offended by your mans behavior. Wife is an absolute knockout but I'm just bored having sex with her. I easily get up for much less attractive women. Guys just get bored screwing the same chick over and over, even if she is a 10.

Yuck! She is so lucky to have you in her life? Sex is an emotional attachment to someone before it is physical, especially in a marriage. If you don't crave that intimacy with her, she should know and you should leave.

NP here. Intimacy changes. Lifetime monogamy is not normal for the typical male hardwiring. It can lead to problems and trying to pretend it is easy to overcome mentally is denial. Admitting the situation and talking about it is the beginning of actual intimacy for many men.

If you knew anything about human sexuality, you would also know that female monogamy isn't "normal."

[Anonymous]

Man here. In over 20 years of marriage I never got tired of sex with the ex. I'd rather do it with her than anyone. But being turned down for the 5,000th time got old, and by the end I didn't want her anymore because she'd been treating me so badly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guy here. Pls dnt be offended by your mans behavior. Wife is an absolute knockout but I'm just bored having sex with her. I easily get up for much less attractive women. Guys just get bored screwing the same chick over and over, even if she is a 10.

Yuck! She is so lucky to have you in her life? Sex is an emotional attachment to someone before it is physical, especially in a marriage. If you don't crave that intimacy with her, she should know and you should leave.

NP here. Intimacy changes. Lifetime monogamy is not normal for the typical male hardwiring. It can lead to problems and trying to pretend it is easy to overcome mentally is denial. Admitting the situation and talking about it is the beginning of actual intimacy for many men.

If you knew anything about human sexuality, you would also know that female monogamy isn't "normal."

Gotcha. Judging from the porn, stripper club and escort business it appears to be exponentially more difficult for men.

[Anonymous]

There's no nice way to say this, but maybe you're just not that good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well what does he say? How does he explain it to you?

For us, this would be a sign that he's seriously pissed at me and/or cheating. He never turns down sex (except when sick). Even when he has a cold he's still after it.

Never turn it down when sick. Marvin Gaye knows why.

[Anonymous]

Has his hand developed calluses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Monogamous sex for years and years is kind of a mindfuck. That's reality. Life isn't a fairytale.

I'm going to copy and paste this and reply to every thread a man makes about his wife not duty-banging him and watch the anger and outrage roll in.

[Anonymous]

New Poster we have had sex 3 times since October. I'm losing my mind. He says he's tired, he's very attracted to me hes just stressed with work. I told him if I cheat it's his fault. We used to have sex ALL the time.

[Anonymous]

Says the woman with a closet full of v i b r a t o r s