Coping skills needed!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if the speech therapist is being so negative, I'd switch speech therapists!

It doesn't sound like the SLP is being harsh just honest. It's not "bad news." She's giving you an update of how your kid is doing and she has limited time to do so.

Truly OP, I don't want therapists to sugar coat stuff or beat around the bush. I need to know what the problems are and what I can do about them. Work on your attitude; be receptive to what she's saying. She's not trying to be mean.

Also, from personal experience, being on anti-depressants help.

Having been at this for 12 years, I understand what OP means. Some ST's identify the issue and say what they are doing to address it. When something is effective they share so you can follow up at home. Sometimes you get a dud who complains about your kids attitude and just lists all the things he can't do. I like the response a PP gave of "That's why we hired you." A good clinician knows how to convey information to the parents in a way that feels collaborative, not negative and condescending.

Yes, this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if the speech therapist is being so negative, I'd switch speech therapists!

It doesn't sound like the SLP is being harsh just honest. It's not "bad news." She's giving you an update of how your kid is doing and she has limited time to do so.

Truly OP, I don't want therapists to sugar coat stuff or beat around the bush. I need to know what the problems are and what I can do about them. Work on your attitude; be receptive to what she's saying. She's not trying to be mean.

Also, from personal experience, being on anti-depressants help.

I promise you, I am open. I want to hear the progress and the concerns. But I believe delivery is important, especially when it is in front of my 4 yr old DS, who understands what she is saying. Her delivery is usually a little rough around the edges. I am very receptive, probably too receptive because I take everything she says to heart very seriously. Which is why I asked for coping advice on how to manage how to handle what I hear, as someone only a year into this whole process.

Pretty much every therapist we've ever (STs or OTs) had gives the debrief in front of the kid. Overall though I agree with you--feedback should be based on the goals. But there's too sides to the coin--her delivery and your ability to take it in but not become overwhelmed. So temper your expectations. It may not be much different with a different therapist.

I have to laugh at the PP who said my kid didn't have "real SN." I only wish. SN school and a decade of therapy under my belt. Not being snarky about the anti-depressant, but I did specify IME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if the speech therapist is being so negative, I'd switch speech therapists!

It doesn't sound like the SLP is being harsh just honest. It's not "bad news." She's giving you an update of how your kid is doing and she has limited time to do so.

Truly OP, I don't want therapists to sugar coat stuff or beat around the bush. I need to know what the problems are and what I can do about them. Work on your attitude; be receptive to what she's saying. She's not trying to be mean.

Also, from personal experience, being on anti-depressants help.

I promise you, I am open. I want to hear the progress and the concerns. But I believe delivery is important, especially when it is in front of my 4 yr old DS, who understands what she is saying. Her delivery is usually a little rough around the edges. I am very receptive, probably too receptive because I take everything she says to heart very seriously. Which is why I asked for coping advice on how to manage how to handle what I hear, as someone only a year into this whole process.

Pretty much every therapist we've ever (STs or OTs) had gives the debrief in front of the kid. Overall though I agree with you--feedback should be based on the goals. But there's too sides to the coin--her delivery and your ability to take it in but not become overwhelmed. So temper your expectations. It may not be much different with a different therapist.

I have to laugh at the PP who said my kid didn't have "real SN." I only wish. SN school and a decade of therapy under my belt. Not being snarky about the anti-depressant, but I did specify IME.

OP here. Yes, definitely to what you have said above and that is why I reached out on here because I am having difficulty not becoming overwhelmed. I know its something I have to work on but I have not figured out how to just get on with my day when I pick him up, get a "bad" report and then he cries while shes telling it to me because he feels bad about what she's saying. That specific scenario has only happened two times in the last couple of months, but still, seeing him cry because of what she is saying really gets to me and I don't know how to not get overwhelmed by it.