Online dating/ 1st date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I kissed a girl I met in a bar within 10-minutes of meeting her because the chemistry was good. We couldn't keep our hands off of each other and kissed the rest of the night. I then found out she is 14 years younger than me! but she was hot and in college - so I couldn't resist.

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Seeking Arrangement Date - how much of an "allowance" did she want?

[Anonymous]

I think it's all good. Possible, yes. Should you give the other men a chance, yes. There's chemistry and there's long-term foundation building. Not all men may be the best for both. No man is perfect.

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP!

Enjoy, savor, but proceed with reasonable expectations and a plan. "Chemistry" is great, but it's literally like a drug in terms of hormonal and chemical reactions. It can mask a lot of undesirable things in a person.

I was in the same boat (divorced after a long marriage, went online). I hit it off with someone and the rest of the candidates paled. It was fun but shortly ended in heartbreak. Learned some lessons, got back in, dated and eventually I again found someone with whom I had amazing mutual chemistry. That time it stuck and we've been together for a few years in a great situation. I tried to keep my head about me, take it a step at a time. I enjoyed it but I didn't rely on it.