Facebook Drama

[Anonymous]

I would find some way to address it. What does your DH have to say about it? Does she post statements like that on his facebook posts? If he can handle it, so much the better.

You might also send her an email the next time she says it, that you post these photos for all your long-distance relatives to enjoy seeing, including her, that the point of the posts is to make folks feel included in what's happening in your lives, not excluded, which her comments seem to imply.

However, if these comments are part of a pattern of her being passive aggressive or demanding about visits--and your relationship isn't that great anyway--I would ignore or possibly even remove her from seeing most things you post.

[Anonymous]

You can post stuff and set particular posts so she doesn't see them.....

The first thing I'd do is minimize the posts she can see. Like every third one.....

[Anonymous]

Unfriend MIL until she learns to behave.

I unfriended my FIL. He kept complaining about receiving my status updates. I'm a problem solver and I have little time to listen to complaints. BTW - he's never complained to me about being unfriended. Perhaps he

[Anonymous]

I'd just block her from seeing the things you post. I don't like drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep doing what you're doing. Ignore. If you feel the need to address it, have a face-to-face. "Hey, Judy, you're always complaining on facebook that you're not invited to things and I wish you wouldn't. We love having you to visit! But we don't always know when the kids are about to be cute. and don't want you to drive 2 hours for ice cream"

It is also at least possible that her comments are meant more in the spirit of "awww, I wish I could have been there." kind of like how someone might post "jealous!" on your vacation photos - they don't actually think they should be at the beach with you - just think it looks like fun. not a guilt trip, just an expression of love.

I agree with the second paragraph. My mom is like this and I don't take her comments any other way.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, our mother's generation needs to get off Facebook. They have no chill and just embarass us all.

[Anonymous]

Have DH address is with his mom. Also, I would delete the comments. Unless you are typing a response to it?

[Anonymous]

You do not need to change what you do just because your MIL complains. It's not fair that the rest of your family shouldn't see these things either. Honestly, block her from certain posts (or from everything). Plus, I would confront her about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have DH address is with his mom. Also, I would delete the comments. Unless you are typing a response to it?

I would as well. My uncle was constantly leaving mean-spirited and/or generally cranky comments on all of my facebook posts and I started deleting every single one. He stopped making nasty comments, if he hadn't, my next step would have been to unfriend him.

[Anonymous]

I think she is lonely and just saying what she wishes. It is a bit passive aggressive, but completely harmless. It is just talking, I wouldn't make much of it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe try inviting her next time. MIL, little Betty is going to be singing a song for me in about 15 minutes. Why don't you pop on over? Oh, you can't make a two hour journey in 15 minutes? Awww. Too bad.

Or you can just block her from your facebook posts. It's really easy to exclude certain people from particular posts. It makes life way easier.

[Anonymous]

there's a reason I have a "NO FAMILY" policy when it comes to facebook.

[Anonymous]

You can exclude her on certain posts in the privacy settings

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds a lot like my mother. She is extremely passive aggressive and it is really hard to ignore but ultimately it is the best thing to do. I fully expect her to be petty and passive aggressive with me about any and everything so if for some remarkable reason she isn't, I can be pleasantly surprised.

It sounds like you enjoy sharing these pictures with the other relatives so it's all or none. Excluding just her from the pictures isn't a good solution.
Keep in mind, if you stop sharing on FB then people will start to ask or complain about that and its another annoyance you have to deal with.

I don't think you are oversharing, I think she is just being petty. It's unreasonable to think a grandparent can be at every single thing with the kids regardless of how far away they live.

Strongly agree with this. Ignore her or have your DH tell her to knock it off. His mom's being a PITA and her behavior isn't exactly going to entice people to want to spend more time with her.

Wow, the first reaction is altercation. People must love spending time with you!

al·ter·ca·tion
?ôlt?r?k?SH(?)n/
noun
a noisy argument or disagreement, especially in public.

Having OPs DH tell his mom that her behavior is an issue is a far cry from an "altercation".

Not only is it not an altercation, it wasn't the first suggestion from either of the PPs. The first response from them was to ignore.

Set down the wine glass, Janet. It's not quite 5 yet, and you're not making sense.

[Anonymous]

Put her on Restricted. Done!