Upper case e-mails from parent organizing high school event?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is a large public school and yes, most of the work is done by parents and cheerleaders. I thought it was unusual that parents are this involved, but I thought it was the same at all school, now I know it isn't. I thought I just didn't know how these things are done here.

Is your child one of the cheerleaders? Is it just parents of certain groups involved, or every parent in the school?

[Anonymous]

I was born in the USA, have 3 kids in high school and college, have held many volunteer positions at our kids' schools, and find it highly unusual that parents are expected to decorate for a dance. I also think it's both unnecessary and rude to use all-caps in an email concerning streamers and balloons. I would attribute this to the parent sending the email being very disorganized and freaking out.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Yes, my child is a cheerleader this year. But, I am not, right? I had no idea when she made the team that this is involved, I would have said, no, thank you. I thought PTA, which I understand is some parent volunteer group, is involved, people who want to be involved. Maybe there is some disorganization, I don't know. But, does the money from this goes to cheerleading uniforms? Or to the whole school? That I would like to know, if all the money goes to cheerleading, then ok, if not, why are these girls( and some boys) indentured to this dance for so many days before and even after?

[Anonymous]

Parent do tend to help with the activities their kids do, so if decorating falls under cheerleaders, than I can see this why you got this email.
My kid does track. They ask for parent volunteers to help with timing and recording the scores.
You can always say no, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parent do tend to help with the activities their kids do, so if decorating falls under cheerleaders, than I can see this why you got this email.
My kid does track. They ask for parent volunteers to help with timing and recording the scores.
You can always say no, OP.

I am not sure I can say no, these e-mails say that if a parent doesn't show up, kid will not cheer at the next game. Language is such that it states "parents must come." Clearly I must do nothing, but if my child does it, why should she be punished if I can't/don't want to be involved?

[Anonymous]

I, I don't think the all caps is that bad. I send an email out to about 800 people every week. I know I'm lucky if they read 20% of it, so I bold and cap the stuff they really need to know.

I do think the whole premise of the email is weird if you didn't volunteer to do it in the first place.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why I'm expected to volunteer if I don't agree with the premise. np here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused as to why the parents are organizing this and the kids aren't. My DD is in 8th grade and for every dance her school has had, the student gov't plans, organizes, preps and cleans up from them. All I do is show up at school at the end to take DD home since it's dark by then and not safe for her to take the bus home alone.

Why are parents attending this dance? What teen wants to go to a dance with their PARENTS? I wouldn't care about the caps. I'd be confused as to why parents are so involved.

Totally agree. The parents of DDs friends go to every dance, every decorating session, everything kid event at school, everything!! It is really weird--it wasn't in K and even though ES but omg back off now. It is high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent do tend to help with the activities their kids do, so if decorating falls under cheerleaders, than I can see this why you got this email.
My kid does track. They ask for parent volunteers to help with timing and recording the scores.
You can always say no, OP.

I am not sure I can say no, these e-mails say that if a parent doesn't show up, kid will not cheer at the next game. Language is such that it states "parents must come." Clearly I must do nothing, but if my child does it, why should she be punished if I can't/don't want to be involved?

What school???

[Anonymous]

Or, you could pick up the phone and call the person who sent the message and say -- "Hi. I am OP and my daughter is DD. I am working that evening but what can I do to help?"

Get involved. Lots of things need to get done with organizations like teams and cheerleaders and clubs and theater and .... What have you done to help out to date? Are you the group treasurer? Have you helped with pre-season camps planning? Are you organizing the end of season banquet? Chances are that the parent who sent the email is getting upset that the other parents are leaving everything to 2 or 3 parents. Which group are you in OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent do tend to help with the activities their kids do, so if decorating falls under cheerleaders, than I can see this why you got this email.
My kid does track. They ask for parent volunteers to help with timing and recording the scores.
You can always say no, OP.

I am not sure I can say no, these e-mails say that if a parent doesn't show up, kid will not cheer at the next game. Language is such that it states "parents must come." Clearly I must do nothing, but if my child does it, why should she be punished if I can't/don't want to be involved?

What school???

I can't say because then people would know who I am. And while I don't care my DD cares a lot and wants to fit in. Anyway, dance is over with, it involved non stop working for four days. I think there is one parent who is too involved and she might be adding to the problem. As soon as this was over, she sent an e-mail about another event, and asked that all the girls bring money. These events are causing my kid to have no time for homework, barely any sleep in the last two weeks. While all caps were the reason for posting first, now I am just ticked off about non stop events and plans. I am not talking about girls being home by 6om, I am talking about girls not coming home till 9pm for several nights in a row, due to all of these obligation that are so ridiculous.