Parents of young kids - intimacy poll

[Anonymous]

1. together 16/married 12
2. twins are 6
3. minimally 3x wk, sometimes more
4. Both dh and I are high drive people- pre-kids we averaged 5-7x a wk (usually more). We would like to get closer to our pre-kid frequency but with work/childcare/eldercare issues, it's difficult.

[Anonymous]

1 together 16 married 14
2.kids are 12 and 10
3. about once a week now
4. I would like at least twice a week, lucky if DW wants it once a week, but i can live with that better than almost never after second child was 0-8

[Anonymous]

My goodness ....Here I am stuck in a sexless marriage, and these PPs can't get their men to sleep with them. PP, I too, would like it 2-3x/week. Too bad we didn't get together...

[Anonymous]

Wow -- some active couples out there!

1. Together 8 years, married 6
2. Kids are 5 and 3
3. 2-4x month
4. I (DW) would like a bit more, but what we lack in quantity we have in quality. I'm happy that we have a solid marriage and I get lots of intimacy otherwise. DH has always been a bit lower drive than I, and we've had a couple health issues over the past year that have gotten in the way of increasing frequency.

[Anonymous]

Together 10, married 6
4 year old
3-4times a week. Like another pp said, sometimes just oral which dh and I both enjoy performing. Ebery other week we add in something spicy.
Very happy. Dh always makes sure I orgasm and weve hit a good stride.

[Anonymous]

1) together 5 yrs/ married 3yrs
2) DS is 17 months
3) 1x/3mos.
4) no, very unhappy with it.

I'm being patient right now because there are a number of things that seem to be off the table (until 15 months, DW refused to consider a babysitter so we could have date night). Although I attempted to talk to her about that and a few other things, the answer is always no, because "reasons"...which vary...it's a little bit like trying to get a straight answer from Donald Trump. I have decided that rather than get told "reasons" why no sex, that things may spontaneously get better as DS gets older. I periodically initiate (and get shot down) but nowhere near as often as I'd actually like to.

No, this isn't sustainable for the long term. I think another 6 months or so...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) how long together/ married?
2) ages of kids
3) how often do you have sex?
4) are you happy with the amount?

1) together 5 years total, of which we have been married for 3 years
2) 2 years old and 32 weeks in utero
3) maybe once a month
4) i am content because we are doing our best. small child, pregnancy, long hours at difficult jobs, no help beyond our nanny and housekeeper. life is all about priorities and sleeping, eating, spending time with our toddler, and trying to find down time for ourselves take precedence over sex right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) how long together/ married?
2) ages of kids
3) how often do you have sex?
4) are you happy with the amount?

1) together 5 years total, of which we have been married for 3 years
2) 2 years old and 32 weeks in utero
3) maybe once a month
4) i am content because we are doing our best. small child, pregnancy, long hours at difficult jobs, no help beyond our nanny and housekeeper. life is all about priorities and sleeping, eating, spending time with our toddler, and trying to find down time for ourselves take precedence over sex right now.

My guess is that something will always take precedence over sex. Don't get in the habit of pushing it to the back burner. It's a use-it-or-lose-it kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) how long together/ married?
2) ages of kids
3) how often do you have sex?
4) are you happy with the amount?

1) together 5 years total, of which we have been married for 3 years
2) 2 years old and 32 weeks in utero
3) maybe once a month
4) i am content because we are doing our best. small child, pregnancy, long hours at difficult jobs, no help beyond our nanny and housekeeper. life is all about priorities and sleeping, eating, spending time with our toddler, and trying to find down time for ourselves take precedence over sex right now.

I get that your jobs are probably long and hard but you do have help so own it.

[Anonymous]

Together almost 20, married almost 15.
Kids are middle school and elem school.
I used to think we had a mostly sexless marriage because it was more like 1x/month. But if you count oral, then at least 1-2x/week. Are people counting oral in these calculations? I am curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Together almost 20, married almost 15.
Kids are middle school and elem school.
I used to think we had a mostly sexless marriage because it was more like 1x/month. But if you count oral, then at least 1-2x/week. Are people counting oral in these calculations? I am curious.

I would. If I could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) how long together/ married?
2) ages of kids
3) how often do you have sex?
4) are you happy with the amount?

1) together 5 years total, of which we have been married for 3 years
2) 2 years old and 32 weeks in utero
3) maybe once a month
4) i am content because we are doing our best. small child, pregnancy, long hours at difficult jobs, no help beyond our nanny and housekeeper. life is all about priorities and sleeping, eating, spending time with our toddler, and trying to find down time for ourselves take precedence over sex right now.

I get that your jobs are probably long and hard but you do have help so own it.

Do you not know what the word "beyond" means?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) how long together/ married?
2) ages of kids
3) how often do you have sex?
4) are you happy with the amount?

1) together 5 years total, of which we have been married for 3 years
2) 2 years old and 32 weeks in utero
3) maybe once a month
4) i am content because we are doing our best. small child, pregnancy, long hours at difficult jobs, no help beyond our nanny and housekeeper. life is all about priorities and sleeping, eating, spending time with our toddler, and trying to find down time for ourselves take precedence over sex right now.

I get that your jobs are probably long and hard but you do have help so own it.

Do you not know what the word "beyond" means?

Give me a break (not pp). A nanny and housekeeper is significant help, which is obviously what PP meant. What other help do you want? A personal chef? A chauffeur?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Together almost 20, married almost 15.
Kids are middle school and elem school.
I used to think we had a mostly sexless marriage because it was more like 1x/month. But if you count oral, then at least 1-2x/week. Are people counting oral in these calculations? I am curious.

I would. If I could.

Lol. I counted it in my totals, but it's usually one sided. I mean, I like doing it, but I like getting it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) married almost nine years
2) kids are 8, 7, 5, 2, & expecting
3). 2-3 x/ wk, but sometimes it is just oral. We have "adventurous sex" about twice a month.
4). It's really a little more than what I need, but I am happy to make my husband happy. He would probably like a little more often and like me to initiate more often.

time to find a hobby other than sex