8 dates. Nothing

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How important is sex to you?

My brother does not really like physical intimacy and is married to a woman that feels the same way.

They have 2 young kids and had sex only for procreation. I'm not sure that they will do it again but are very happy togther.

Different strokes.


ASD?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How important is sex to you?

My brother does not really like physical intimacy and is married to a woman that feels the same way.

They have 2 young kids and had sex only for procreation. I'm not sure that they will do it again but are very happy togther.

Different strokes.


Or not. Sorry, couldn't resist. That you are talking about kidsing is strange. Why not just go for it?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How important is sex to you?

My brother does not really like physical intimacy and is married to a woman that feels the same way.

They have 2 young kids and had sex only for procreation. I'm not sure that they will do it again but are very happy togther.

Different strokes.


ASD?

That's what I thought when I read this too. Either way, it reinforces my belief that there truly is a lid for every pot.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How important is sex to you?

My brother does not really like physical intimacy and is married to a woman that feels the same way.

They have 2 young kids and had sex only for procreation. I'm not sure that they will do it again but are very happy togther.

Different strokes.


ASD?

That's what I thought when I read this too. Either way, it reinforces my belief that there truly is a lid for every pot.


No but he is 2 years younger and we would talk as brothers do.

He was never interested much in sex. Just did not like the idea of it and after trying it just never understood what the fuss was ok about.

I asked him if he thought he might be gay years ago and he said no. He was not excited about sex with women but the thought of sex with a man was repulsive to him. He once had a girlfriend shortly after college with an oral fixation. He again thought that it was no big deal,,

I used to be flummoxed by this but over the years I've come to understand that people are very different. The fact that he was able to find another person felt the same way and he loves means that what is average doesn't matter. What matters is that you find people to live your life with that sheer your goals and aspirations.
Anonymous
Low testosterone. And I can tell you from experience, being married to a man with Low T is hell. Unless of course you are prepared to deal with this form of passive sexuality throughout your relationship. OP, testosterone is what drives sex. Plain and simple.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. He said he wants to kiss but feels shy. The problem is I feel shy too. But after 8 dates, I want someone to grab me and kiss regardless of how awkward it is.


So do it! But know that it could be a sign you'll always have to take charge to get action with him. But at least it'll help you past the getting over the ex.
Anonymous
By the 8th date i would expect he would be trying for the a train. Find another guy who does it for you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How important is sex to you?

My brother does not really like physical intimacy and is married to a woman that feels the same way.

They have 2 young kids and had sex only for procreation. I'm not sure that they will do it again but are very happy togther.

Different strokes.


Different strokes is right. I wonder how common this is.
Anonymous
Why not take charge and be a little more aggressive? The worst that can happen is that you are not compatible.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. He said he wants to kiss but feels shy. The problem is I feel shy too. But after 8 dates, I want someone to grab me and kiss regardless of how awkward it is.


So do it! But know that it could be a sign you'll always have to take charge to get action with him. But at least it'll help you past the getting over the ex.


If you have made it clear to this guy that you want him to make a move and he still won't claiming he's shy, he's the wrong guy.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How important is sex to you?

My brother does not really like physical intimacy and is married to a woman that feels the same way.

They have 2 young kids and had sex only for procreation. I'm not sure that they will do it again but are very happy togther.

Different strokes.


ASD?

That's what I thought when I read this too. Either way, it reinforces my belief that there truly is a lid for every pot.


No but he is 2 years younger and we would talk as brothers do.

He was never interested much in sex. Just did not like the idea of it and after trying it just never understood what the fuss was ok about.

I asked him if he thought he might be gay years ago and he said no. He was not excited about sex with women but the thought of sex with a man was repulsive to him. He once had a girlfriend shortly after college with an oral fixation. He again thought that it was no big deal,,

I used to be flummoxed by this but over the years I've come to understand that people are very different. The fact that he was able to find another person felt the same way and he loves means that what is average doesn't matter. What matters is that you find people to live your life with that sheer your goals and aspirations.

+1
I think the sooner people realize this, the happier and less angsty, anxious, and insecure they will be
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How important is sex to you?

My brother does not really like physical intimacy and is married to a woman that feels the same way.

They have 2 young kids and had sex only for procreation. I'm not sure that they will do it again but are very happy togther.

Different strokes.

Most women on here would love this type of relationship. It's no wonder western birth rates keep dropping.
Anonymous
OP, are you a man or a woman?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you a man or a woman?


I'm a woman
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Low testosterone. And I can tell you from experience, being married to a man with Low T is hell. Unless of course you are prepared to deal with this form of passive sexuality throughout your relationship. OP, testosterone is what drives sex. Plain and simple.


+1

When I say to my husband,"Hey we haven't had sex in a week/two weeks," he looks up at me like, really, it's been that long? Just doesn't occur to him and he doesn't get physically restless. I wish he'd leveled with me before we got married, but he felt like he had to put up a macho front. And I am a high drive woman! My H would be perfectly suited to all those DCUM women who can do duty sex once a week but could take it or leave it. It is hell being married to someone who loves me but not physically. I think about this every single day of my life.
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