Colleague want to be more than friends

[Anonymous]

Agree with the PP who said channel it into your marriage. I had a long flirtation with a co-worker. We are close friends, would never act on it. However the crush woke me up and I started taking better care of myself for me - working out, caring more about my appearance, etc. It cooled off but I feel better now, feels like I have a bit of myself back after having 2 kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are both married, and at this point I don't know the difference between flirting and propositioning - I have never (even when I was single) had any male attention to speak of, outside of my husband (and he is not exactly the doting type), so maybe I am reading too much into in. He is direct about enjoying time with me when we do lunches, he stops in to chat regularly, texts a lot (lots of jokes) and is very excited that we are traveling together soon for work- even started planning some after work activities.

To the young singles reading this - enjoy single life. I never had the opportunity (I was not attractive and very shy) to flirt and have fun, and it weighs on my mind. Hate having regrets, but wish I got some of this out of my system.

I'm the PP who cut it off with my coworker and I have a similar wallflower background. Try to channel some of that energy back into your marriage. I never thought that would work but it has. The attention is like a drug. I used the flirtation as a jumping off point for health, beauty, and fashion changes that have gotten some attention from others, male and female. Suddenly the crush withered. I work in a highly intellectual job and it pains me that I'm so shallow, but after the age of 40 and after a couple kids it feels good to not be invisible anymore.
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How did the crush wither? Your choice or his?

If he cooled it, were you upset/crushed?

Why would you be "upset/crushed" if this random work guy quit flirting with you? Come on, that's really the most exciting thing about your life?

[Anonymous]

You have already said you are unattractive and shy. Imagine where you will be after you fuck you work colleague and your husband finds out and divorces you.