Coworker is upset that I don't share food with her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i should add i offer snacks to people next to me, but not every day.

This does make it a bit of a different story. Are you smiley to some people and not others? Do you offer to some but not her? It might not be the food, !75 the fact that she thinks you don't like her and doesn't know how to expresss it.

She's crazy weird for even bringing it up, but maybe just have a no offer policy?

OP here, that was not my comment.

[Anonymous]

Go buy a cheap, huge bag of the most disgusting high calorie junk you can find and then offer her that next time she asks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in an open office and there are about 20 of us. I work 10 hour days, so I tend to pack a lot of food in my lunch box. Normally leftovers with a variety of snacks (fruit, yogurt, chips, etc). My coworker mention yesterday that she doesn't like that I don't share snacks with her and the fact that I'm always hungry isn't an excuse. I'm rather slim and have a fast metabolism, as a result I eat frequently. She said she thought I was an only child, not sure what that has to do with anything. And she doesn't like the fact that I'm not happy and chipper and don't talk enough at work. As a a result I officially am not too fond of her. She says it's a way to build camaderie at work. I've been at my workplace for 5 years and she about one or two. I was not in a good mood at all yesterday. How can I handle this situation?

Does the coworker give you the snacks she brings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in an open office and there are about 20 of us. I work 10 hour days, so I tend to pack a lot of food in my lunch box. Normally leftovers with a variety of snacks (fruit, yogurt, chips, etc). My coworker mention yesterday that she doesn't like that I don't share snacks with her and the fact that I'm always hungry isn't an excuse. I'm rather slim and have a fast metabolism, as a result I eat frequently. She said she thought I was an only child, not sure what that has to do with anything. And she doesn't like the fact that I'm not happy and chipper and don't talk enough at work. As a a result I officially am not too fond of her. She says it's a way to build camaderie at work. I've been at my workplace for 5 years and she about one or two. I was not in a good mood at all yesterday. How can I handle this situation?

Does the coworker give you the snacks she brings?

No, but I never ask.

[Anonymous]

Next time she comes by while you're eating cough all over your food - she'll change her mind about wanting you to share then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in an open office and there are about 20 of us. I work 10 hour days, so I tend to pack a lot of food in my lunch box. Normally leftovers with a variety of snacks (fruit, yogurt, chips, etc). My coworker mention yesterday that she doesn't like that I don't share snacks with her and the fact that I'm always hungry isn't an excuse. I'm rather slim and have a fast metabolism, as a result I eat frequently. She said she thought I was an only child, not sure what that has to do with anything. And she doesn't like the fact that I'm not happy and chipper and don't talk enough at work. As a a result I officially am not too fond of her. She says it's a way to build camaderie at work. I've been at my workplace for 5 years and she about one or two. I was not in a good mood at all yesterday. How can I handle this situation?

Does the coworker give you the snacks she brings?

No, but I never ask.

If she doesn't offer to share her snacks with you, she should have no expectations for your food. You might be greedy by some people's standards, but so it she.

[Anonymous]

^ so IS she

[Anonymous]

You sound like a drama queen. You are freezing this girl out of your little social circle by offering snacks to other coworkers but not her, and then being offended when she calls you out on how your behaviour makes her feel.

It's a workplace, not grade school. No, you're not under any obligation to share your snacks. No, you're not under any obligation to be nice to her. But not is she under any obligation to not tell you how rude that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a drama queen. You are freezing this girl out of your little social circle by offering snacks to other coworkers but not her, and then being offended when she calls you out on how your behaviour makes her feel.

It's a workplace, not grade school. No, you're not under any obligation to share your snacks. No, you're not under any obligation to be nice to her. But not is she under any obligation to not tell you how rude that is.

You sound like a drama queen. OP clearly stated above that the snack-sharer was not her.

[Anonymous]

Is your metabolism a disability that makes you need to snack all day in between meals that your employer is accommodating? You say you go to work two hours after everyone else and don't have time to eat breakfast at home sometimes? So you eat breakfast at work at 10am? And then you snack until your mid afternoon lunch? Your lunch is later that everyone elses, why? Did you make this up or your employer? Why don't you go out to eat or satiate yourself enough not to require all the snacking - because it looks like your schedule is such that you are eating around people at times most of us would not be eating at all.

[Anonymous]

How often are you eating in your open office?

[Anonymous]

It would annoy me to have someone constantly eating in an open plan office. That said, I wouldn't demand some of their food!

[Anonymous]

she sounds a little crazy. i would ignore it. if you are worried and want to keep the peace you could buy a big snack thing from costco every so often to keep around and offer but really not necessary.
how are you supposed to pack you food each day if sometimes you might be feeding just yourself, half the office or the whole office?
if you are packing a lot of foods with strong odors or eating loudly i would try to work on that but otherwise continue on as usual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would annoy me to have someone constantly eating in an open plan office. That said, I wouldn't demand some of their food!

It's not OP's fault the stupid management has an open office plan. Your coworker sounds like she has issues OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is crazy like seinfeld. just bring a little extra, offer it to her. or ignore her but she might stay mad.

I vote for ignoring her. That's inane! Yes, she's crazy. If you share you are enabling crazy.