My wife's ex passed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's normal for her to be sad about the death of her ex, especially since (I am assuming) he was the biological father of her children. I would expect this to be very difficult news.

However, this very public grieving that she is doing sounds a bit over the top, possibly bordering on disrespectful to you. Is she sobbing and looking for others to comfort her or is she simply weeping with others who were close to him? How are the kids doing?

I would give her a day or two to let his death sink in. Since he wasn't an every day part of her life she should be able to move on soon.

Well she put up a post on Facebook about valuing something/someone after its gone with a picture of the ex and the kids. I may be petty but I didn't expect to feel hurt by this.

bro - you deserve to feel this way because deep down you know the ex got her when she younger and more valuable and had children with her while you are stuck paying for and raising his orgasm(s).

Your mistake was to get with her in the first place. You reap what you sow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's normal for her to be sad about the death of her ex, especially since (I am assuming) he was the biological father of her children. I would expect this to be very difficult news.

However, this very public grieving that she is doing sounds a bit over the top, possibly bordering on disrespectful to you. Is she sobbing and looking for others to comfort her or is she simply weeping with others who were close to him? How are the kids doing?

I would give her a day or two to let his death sink in. Since he wasn't an every day part of her life she should be able to move on soon.

Well she put up a post on Facebook about valuing something/someone after its gone with a picture of the ex and the kids. I may be petty but I didn't expect to feel hurt by this.

bro - you deserve to feel this way because deep down you know the ex got her when she younger and more valuable and had children with her while you are stuck paying for and raising his orgasm(s).

Your mistake was to get with her in the first place. You reap what you sow.

This post is about a 6.5 or so. Not bad, but lacking the subtlety of a truly talented troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's normal for her to be sad about the death of her ex, especially since (I am assuming) he was the biological father of her children. I would expect this to be very difficult news.

However, this very public grieving that she is doing sounds a bit over the top, possibly bordering on disrespectful to you. Is she sobbing and looking for others to comfort her or is she simply weeping with others who were close to him? How are the kids doing?

I would give her a day or two to let his death sink in. Since he wasn't an every day part of her life she should be able to move on soon.

Well she put up a post on Facebook about valuing something/someone after its gone with a picture of the ex and the kids. I may be petty but I didn't expect to feel hurt by this.

bro - you deserve to feel this way because deep down you know the ex got her when she younger and more valuable and had children with her while you are stuck paying for and raising his orgasm(s).

Your mistake was to get with her in the first place. You reap what you sow.

This post is about a 6.5 or so. Not bad, but lacking the subtlety of a truly talented troll.

not troll - this is what happens when there is unequal baggage in a relationship.

OP's wife will always wish that her first marriage and the father of her three children worked out.

No one goes into their first marriage already hoping it fails.

OP was second (or third choice) who rationalized it away by 'playing superman' and 'saving' the woman and her kids but now is starting to see the truth.

You should file for divorce papers OP.

[Anonymous]

Is this ex also the Father of the three children mentioned?
If so, I would continue to support them as they grieve & be as sympathetic as you possibly can.

Just because your wife is grieving his passing does not mean she is still in love w/this man.
And if they indeed share three kids together she may also primarily be grieving the loss of a Father to her children.

That being said, I would feel exactly the way you do inside.
It's definitely not easy on you.
Do you have any close friends or family members that you can talk to about how this also seems to bother you as well??

For obvious reasons, this is not something you can discuss w/your wife right now.
Later on perhaps.

You need someone you can successfully vent to do hopefully you do have someone you can do this around.

So sorry you are going through this.
Rooting for things to improve very soon!

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Your feelings are totally understandable, OP.

That said, you're taking it very personally and this really is not about you.