Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, tell the birthday princess to calm the f down and act like an adult. I'm assuming she is turning 26, not 16.

If you really need to cater to her (though I wouldn't) talk to your inlaws and ask if it's ok to only sing to your sister when you have cake and ice cream in the evening because she is a crazy person. Assuming they are reasonable adults, they will roll their eyes with you and agree to just celebrate MIL's birthday while they are out and not "steal" your sister's birthday.

Ha, I guess this is an idea too although I'm leaning towards cake at the restaurant. Eh, she's turning 37 or 38 I believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is a baby announcement party?

It's the gender reveal thing. DW wants to do it so I'm just facilitating execution of the plan. Happy wife, happy life...know what I mean?

[Anonymous]

Trying to make sense of this post made my heart hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is a baby announcement party?

It's the gender reveal thing. DW wants to do it so I'm just facilitating execution of the plan. Happy wife, happy life...know what I mean?

Oh man. You are a good man.

[Anonymous]

You do something for the person having a birthday- i.e. Mary Jane's birthday is Saturday the 21st. You celebrate on the 21st. Your MIL is not having a birthday. That said, your sister is over 21 she should not care. Birthdays are for kids.

[Anonymous]

My life rule is the person making the drama or making the conflict is the one that gets the short end of the stick. If person x says "I won't share my day with person y" then person x doesn't get their day celebrated. You can't share, you get nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My life rule is the person making the drama or making the conflict is the one that gets the short end of the stick. If person x says "I won't share my day with person y" then person x doesn't get their day celebrated. You can't share, you get nothing.

Usually this rule is used on children under the age of 10. In this case, apply it to your 37 yo sister who is also having a gender reveal party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trying to make sense of this post made my heart hurt.

12:22 summarized it very concisely. It's a little bit of a frustrating situation so I wasn't as clear as I could have been.

[Anonymous]

You're sister is nutty and waaaay too used to being catered to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My life rule is the person making the drama or making the conflict is the one that gets the short end of the stick. If person x says "I won't share my day with person y" then person x doesn't get their day celebrated. You can't share, you get nothing.

Usually this rule is used on children under the age of 10. In this case, apply it to your 37 yo sister who is also having a gender reveal party.

Well, the gender reveal thing is actually for DW.

The only reason I haven't shut all this down is because my sister's first reaction is to go nuclear and cancel the visit. The solution of the cake at the restaurant would seem to solve all sides of the issue with minimal disruption so I'm fine with doing that. If that solution isn't acceptable or another one isn't proposed then she's just going to be stuck. Also, despite the drama, I think DW would like to see my sister...just, without the drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My life rule is the person making the drama or making the conflict is the one that gets the short end of the stick. If person x says "I won't share my day with person y" then person x doesn't get their day celebrated. You can't share, you get nothing.

Usually this rule is used on children under the age of 10. In this case, apply it to your 37 yo sister who is also having a gender reveal party.

OP's wife is the one having the gender reveal party. Both families are traveling to town for OP's wife's gender reveal party and each family would like to celebrate a birthday that same weekend. OP's sister is being a little lame but so what. She is probably feeling like if she has to come to town for a silly gender reveal party on her birthday weekend, she would at least like to have the birthday celebration she would like without this other family that are basically strangers to her with the only connection being her brother marries the other birthday girl's daughter. Considering the distance between the families, they have probably all only met a couple times at most.

Bringing two separate cakes two separate restaurants should make everyone happy. We've brought cakes t0 restaurants plenty of times. At most, restaurant may charge you a cake cutting fee or something silly like that, but they are always happy to oblige. Just call ahead on that.

[Anonymous]

Don't have cake for your sister at the house. Order dessert out at the restaurant with a candle. This isn't that hard.

Though your sister is a huge drama queen. I can not imagine caring about sharing a cake on my birthday ONE TIME because I am visiting relatives on that ONE birthday and another person ALSO has a birthday close to mine. WHO CARES?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My life rule is the person making the drama or making the conflict is the one that gets the short end of the stick. If person x says "I won't share my day with person y" then person x doesn't get their day celebrated. You can't share, you get nothing.

Usually this rule is used on children under the age of 10. In this case, apply it to your 37 yo sister who is also having a gender reveal party.

Well, the gender reveal thing is actually for DW.

The only reason I haven't shut all this down is because my sister's first reaction is to go nuclear and cancel the visit. The solution of the cake at the restaurant would seem to solve all sides of the issue with minimal disruption so I'm fine with doing that. If that solution isn't acceptable or another one isn't proposed then she's just going to be stuck. Also, despite the drama, I think DW would like to see my sister...just, without the drama.

Oh! I thought DW was having the gender reveal for SIL. Well, you are even a bigger prince among men. My husband would put up with any of this nonsense for approximately 6 seconds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trying to make sense of this post made my heart hurt.

Glad I'm not the only one. Good grief.

Sister is infantile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't have cake for your sister at the house. Order dessert out at the restaurant with a candle. This isn't that hard.

Though your sister is a huge drama queen. I can not imagine caring about sharing a cake on my birthday ONE TIME because I am visiting relatives on that ONE birthday and another person ALSO has a birthday close to mine. WHO CARES?!

OP here. I agree and am planning on proposing we do the cake at a restaurant. It's a good idea and didn't come to mind; although, to be fair, no one else thought of it either. : )