Disagreement with Husband, how would you handle it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can totally do it if you help. DH and I have moved ourselves before and hired movers. Both ways are a pain, take longer than you expect and cost more than you plan. Personally I prefer your DH's way. Moving slowly over a few days also gives you time to unpack/set up over there.

This is what we did.
DH rented a uhaul and we moved ourselves. DH asked 2 of his best friends to help him carry the big stuff. His friends were fine with that. They've been friends forever that's just what friends do. It helped we had beer and pizza for lunch.

We used a hand-cart a lot which helped move the large boxes faster too.

+1. Never had movers. Of course, I (the female) didn't complain and pitched in and helped. I'm not above that.

[Anonymous]

With mileage, taxes, and hand truck rental, you're going to pay $75/day for a medium-sized Uhaul truck.

[Anonymous]

At some age you're too old to do the UHaul, friends and pizza thing. How old is he? Is he expecting you to move the furniture or is he recruiting some friend or relative?

[Anonymous]

Let your DH be the man he wants to be. It is a lot of hard work, but that is what guys like to do; maybe he is looking at it like a "project". Make sure he has a dolly that has 4 wheels...the kind that you can tilt and place objects on like a cart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With mileage, taxes, and hand truck rental, you're going to pay $75/day for a medium-sized Uhaul truck.

Rent the $29 a day 8x12 closed trailer. Since its only 3 miles away...make a many trips as you need...the loads will be smaller but if you have 5 days to move the most you will spend on the trailer is $150.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At some age you're too old to do the UHaul, friends and pizza thing. How old is he? Is he expecting you to move the furniture or is he recruiting some friend or relative?

Yeah, this. Once you hit your 30s and have a certain amount of things - grow up and hire movers.

[Anonymous]

My friends did this and "saved" $500, but broke a window in their pickup so minus $250 deductible the first day. On the second day, my friend twisted her ankle helping to carry furniture down the stairs so minus $100 ER copayment. She couldn't help after that so her DH had to hire a day worker which further ate into their "savings".

[Anonymous]

Not to mention the heat. Hire movers! Spend that time getting settled and not waiting days and days for the move to be complete. I hate moving and drawing it out would make me bonkers.

[Anonymous]

If you are under 40 let him do it. If you are over 40 pay movers.

[Anonymous]

We got a UHaul but hired help. Worth every penny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can totally do it if you help. DH and I have moved ourselves before and hired movers. Both ways are a pain, take longer than you expect and cost more than you plan. Personally I prefer your DH's way. Moving slowly over a few days also gives you time to unpack/set up over there.

This is what we did.
DH rented a uhaul and we moved ourselves. DH asked 2 of his best friends to help him carry the big stuff. His friends were fine with that. They've been friends forever that's just what friends do. It helped we had beer and pizza for lunch.

We used a hand-cart a lot which helped move the large boxes faster too.

+1. Never had movers. Of course, I (the female) didn't complain and pitched in and helped. I'm not above that.

You guys are just like our former neighbors who claimed "we never hire movers" when what they meant was "we're going to ask all of you to waste a Saturday helping us move instead." None of the husbands wanted to say no but nobody wants to waste a weekend day helping adults move so they can save $350. If you can afford a new house, you can afford hourly movers. Pizza is not a prize. We can buy our own pizza for $15 and no hard labor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can totally do it if you help. DH and I have moved ourselves before and hired movers. Both ways are a pain, take longer than you expect and cost more than you plan. Personally I prefer your DH's way. Moving slowly over a few days also gives you time to unpack/set up over there.

This is what we did.
DH rented a uhaul and we moved ourselves. DH asked 2 of his best friends to help him carry the big stuff. His friends were fine with that. They've been friends forever that's just what friends do. It helped we had beer and pizza for lunch.

We used a hand-cart a lot which helped move the large boxes faster too.

+1. Never had movers. Of course, I (the female) didn't complain and pitched in and helped. I'm not above that.

You guys are just like our former neighbors who claimed "we never hire movers" when what they meant was "we're going to ask all of you to waste a Saturday helping us move instead." None of the husbands wanted to say no but nobody wants to waste a weekend day helping adults move so they can save $350. If you can afford a new house, you can afford hourly movers. Pizza is not a prize. We can buy our own pizza for $15 and no hard labor.

You don't sound like you have a whole lot of friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having moved many times, it is worth paying someone else to do the heavy lifting.

Agree.

Totally agree, and if you are out of college, you don't ask your friends to help you move furniture. Just hire the movers. You will wish you did if you don't.

[Anonymous]

If he really wants to cheap out, pick up some guys to help when you rent the uhaul. They probably charge &15-$20/hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can totally do it if you help. DH and I have moved ourselves before and hired movers. Both ways are a pain, take longer than you expect and cost more than you plan. Personally I prefer your DH's way. Moving slowly over a few days also gives you time to unpack/set up over there.

This is what we did.
DH rented a uhaul and we moved ourselves. DH asked 2 of his best friends to help him carry the big stuff. His friends were fine with that. They've been friends forever that's just what friends do. It helped we had beer and pizza for lunch.

We used a hand-cart a lot which helped move the large boxes faster too.

+1. Never had movers. Of course, I (the female) didn't complain and pitched in and helped. I'm not above that.

You guys are just like our former neighbors who claimed "we never hire movers" when what they meant was "we're going to ask all of you to waste a Saturday helping us move instead." None of the husbands wanted to say no but nobody wants to waste a weekend day helping adults move so they can save $350. If you can afford a new house, you can afford hourly movers. Pizza is not a prize. We can buy our own pizza for $15 and no hard labor.

You don't sound like you have a whole lot of friends.

I have plenty. I work too damn hard during the week to help cheapskates drag their shit around town because they don't want to pay for movers. I have other stuff I can be doing. You can pretend your friends are cool with pizza and beer for hard labor but if you're over 30, they're not, they're just doing it to be nice and because saying no is awkward.