Do you ever tell your dh or dw to go to hell?

[Anonymous]

Nope. One time in a fight where we were both drunk (it wasn't even over anything big!) I yelled "f*** you!" At him but that was the only time either of us has ever said anything remotely close to that. We laugh about it now, and he's never said anything like that to me. Like others have said, it's a respect thing.

[Anonymous]

No. We can be disrespectful, but never have said this to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Under my breath, yes.

+1

And in my head

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those words are very disrespectful. Would you talk to your boss that way?

Haha he's not my boss! He started doing it a year ago.

My point is, when you respect someone you don't talk to them that way. A person might not respect the person a boss is, but respects the position. So they refrain from being disrespectful and saying things like that to them.

If your DH is saying that to you it means he no longer respects you. In my opinion, once the respect is gone, the relationship is doomed

I feel the same way about frosting in front of each other so I guess it's subjective.

[Anonymous]

Farting
Not frosting

[Anonymous]

Never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Under my breath, yes.

+1

And in my head

same here. somewhat regularly in fact! i think pretty much everyone at least occasionally loses it and says something out loud that they shouldn't. lord knows i do, and i think of myself as pretty heavily self-possessed/controlled/zen. over the last 15 years of dating/marriage (and, er, mostly in the last 4 years since we've had kids), i've called dh an asshole and told him to shut up or go away or stop being so damned lazy and whiny and once to fuck off. etc. but never "go to hell". i'm not sure it's objectively worse but it feels like a line we shouldn't cross for whatever reason. anyway, point being, it is obviously not a way people should speak to each other, regardless, but everybody screws up from time to time. if it is a regular thing, have some real talk with him about why it bothers you. i did this the one time DH called me a "bitch". there have been plenty of fights since then, but no "bitch".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those words are very disrespectful. Would you talk to your boss that way?

Haha he's not my boss! He started doing it a year ago.

My point is, when you respect someone you don't talk to them that way. A person might not respect the person a boss is, but respects the position. So they refrain from being disrespectful and saying things like that to them.

If your DH is saying that to you it means he no longer respects you. In my opinion, once the respect is gone, the relationship is doomed

I feel the same way about frosting in front of each other so I guess it's subjective.

You guys must take cake decorating seriously.

[Anonymous]

No. It's important to me to fight fairly. The point is to get the problem solved, not beat the other person down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Farting
Not frosting

LOL! I thought it was this new fetish I didn't know anything about just proving how different people really are. Oh, he frosts in front of you, anything else going on with the frosting?

[Anonymous]

never in nearly 40 yrs together

[Anonymous]

No but I'd sure like to! Married 13 years.

[Anonymous]

I've said Don't act like an asshole, but not that.

[Anonymous]

Yes, many-'o-times.

Those who say never are scathing liars.

Lol.

[Anonymous]

9:37 - You think your relationship is doomed if your partner farts in front of you? People fart an average of 14 times a day. I cannot imagine being so repressed that I couldn't pass a little gas in front of my spouse. Bad breaths, stinky poops, sweaty crotches -- these are all part of life. You cannot have a relationship with someone you don't trust to accept you for being a human.