Do men really care about texting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was confused when receiving smiley faces from female friends who had no intention of ever dating me. Why would you do that to a guy you know would like to go out with you?

Attention whore wants attention, validation, ego gratification.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy and I can tell you I do care about texting. It's not the format - it's communication. So if I texted like "hey I had a great time" and don't get a reply I think she didn't have a good time. Ignore my reasonable texts and I will move on because it will certainly be indicative that you aren't in to me. I don't mean massive texting. But appropriate texting.

This is all perfectly sensible and I feel the same way as you. But the point is: you're not keeping score.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy and I can tell you I do care about texting. It's not the format - it's communication. So if I texted like "hey I had a great time" and don't get a reply I think she didn't have a good time. Ignore my reasonable texts and I will move on because it will certainly be indicative that you aren't in to me. I don't mean massive texting. But appropriate texting.

This is all perfectly sensible and I feel the same way as you. But the point is: you're not keeping score.

What women keep score?? never once have I kept score. Once you are in a relationship it is a great way to keep in contact.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Overall, yes, texting is a good and useful thing. However, in my opinion, women over think this. Stop trying to interpret his every emoji, stop trying to guess if he loves you based upon his response time, stop trying to make sure you and he send an equal nunber of texts, etc. I assure you the he is not thinking as much about this as you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy and I can tell you I do care about texting. It's not the format - it's communication. So if I texted like "hey I had a great time" and don't get a reply I think she didn't have a good time. Ignore my reasonable texts and I will move on because it will certainly be indicative that you aren't in to me. I don't mean massive texting. But appropriate texting.

Hey thanks for being so open. It's nice to now that guys care as much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Overall, yes, texting is a good and useful thing. However, in my opinion, women over think this. Stop trying to interpret his every emoji, stop trying to guess if he loves you based upon his response time, stop trying to make sure you and he send an equal nunber of texts, etc. I assure you the he is not thinking as much about this as you...

Just because he is not thinking about it doesn't mean the parameters you listed to not reflect his level of interest. If anything they do all the more so. So yeah if the guy texts you less than you text him and it takes him a long time to reply he is probably not that much into you... over and over and over again I have seen men do everything when they find a woman they like. They will text her 10000 times a day is they think that will help their cause.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. Overall, yes, texting is a good and useful thing. However, in my opinion, women over think this. Stop trying to interpret his every emoji, stop trying to guess if he loves you based upon his response time, stop trying to make sure you and he send an equal nunber of texts, etc. I assure you the he is not thinking as much about this as you...

Just because he is not thinking about it doesn't mean the parameters you listed to not reflect his level of interest. If anything they do all the more so. So yeah if the guy texts you less than you text him and it takes him a long time to reply he is probably not that much into you... over and over and over again I have seen men do everything when they find a woman they like. They will text her 10000 times a day is they think that will help their cause.

Ovet thinking...

[Anonymous]

Not that everyone does this, but if you have an iPhone, there is a read receipt option which helps if the other person has an iPhone and has the option turned on. You never know if a text didn't go through for whatever reason.

Yes, people keep score, but I think making a call is better to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Overall, yes, texting is a good and useful thing. However, in my opinion, women over think this. Stop trying to interpret his every emoji, stop trying to guess if he loves you based upon his response time, stop trying to make sure you and he send an equal nunber of texts, etc. I assure you the he is not thinking as much about this as you...

Just because he is not thinking about it doesn't mean the parameters you listed to not reflect his level of interest. If anything they do all the more so. So yeah if the guy texts you less than you text him and it takes him a long time to reply he is probably not that much into you... over and over and over again I have seen men do everything when they find a woman they like. They will text her 10000 times a day is they think that will help their cause.

thanks for proving PP's ("man here") point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was confused when receiving smiley faces from female friends who had no intention of ever dating me. Why would you do that to a guy you know would like to go out with you?

Attention whore wants attention, validation, ego gratification.

That's harsh; they're actually nice women. The one ... ok, she's more complicated than Chinese algebra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Overall, yes, texting is a good and useful thing. However, in my opinion, women over think this. Stop trying to interpret his every emoji, stop trying to guess if he loves you based upon his response time, stop trying to make sure you and he send an equal nunber of texts, etc. I assure you the he is not thinking as much about this as you...

Just because he is not thinking about it doesn't mean the parameters you listed to not reflect his level of interest. If anything they do all the more so. So yeah if the guy texts you less than you text him and it takes him a long time to reply he is probably not that much into you... over and over and over again I have seen men do everything when they find a woman they like. They will text her 10000 times a day is they think that will help their cause.

Really? Incessant texting would be more alarming than flattering. Once every week or so seems more sane, even if the guy is interested and attracted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was confused when receiving smiley faces from female friends who had no intention of ever dating me. Why would you do that to a guy you know would like to go out with you?

Attention whore wants attention, validation, ego gratification.

That's harsh; they're actually nice women. The one ... ok, she's more complicated than Chinese algebra.

Don't overthink the smilies. At the least, it means you don't repulse her and doesn't mind interacting with you. You did mention you're friends, right? I'm married and have a few make friends and if I'm saying something I think is funny or if he did, I'll use a smiley. Do they all think I want to date them now?
Women are more likely to text how they talk. They want to express themselves fully. Most men view it as functional. Judging by my male boss' texts you'd think he was the most curt and dour guy. Actually he's very kind and funny in real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was confused when receiving smiley faces from female friends who had no intention of ever dating me. Why would you do that to a guy you know would like to go out with you?

Attention whore wants attention, validation, ego gratification.

That's harsh; they're actually nice women. The one ... ok, she's more complicated than Chinese algebra.

Don't overthink the smilies. At the least, it means you don't repulse her and doesn't mind interacting with you. You did mention you're friends, right? I'm married and have a few make friends and if I'm saying something I think is funny or if he did, I'll use a smiley. Do they all think I want to date them now?
Women are more likely to text how they talk. They want to express themselves fully. Most men view it as functional. Judging by my male boss' texts you'd think he was the most curt and dour guy. Actually he's very kind and funny in real life.

+1. Agree that texting is more of a functional thing for men. That said, if a man is texting a woman (not his wife) for no reason but just to say hello, he's definitely interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not that everyone does this, but if you have an iPhone, there is a read receipt option which helps if the other person has an iPhone and has the option turned on. You never know if a text didn't go through for whatever reason.

Yes, people keep score, but I think making a call is better to do.

Yeah there is only one person out of everyone I know who knowingly has this on.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but this is a dumb and sexist question. Whether someone cares about texting depends on that person, not whether they have a Y chromosome.