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Anonymous wrote:So nine months ago, I came to suspect my wife of cheating, but I have no verifiable proof. 99 percent sure though. She has always denied it. From that point on, I did everything wrong. I confronted early, which might have driven it underground. I came across as desperate and pathetic since I was so shocked and stunned and afraid of my family (2 kids) essentially exploding. I went into full protect-the-family mode. We met with a priest, but I suspect she might not have been honest with him. She has not seen the AP (he's overseas), but I know they've had contact. Now I so tired of fighting this and trying to make it work the way I've done it, which is all wrong. Could I try a 180 now? I need to get closure, apology, remorse, empathy, whatever, and I don't anticipate any apology or admission unless she sees a dire outcome (losing the family, exposure to her family -- I have protected her and not told anyone else, and that too is driving me insane.) The 180 preaches being upbeat and happy and positive all the time, which would be fine except I am anxious, heartbroken, numb and angry in equal measure. HELP!!
You are shit out of luck. You have lost her trust. My sister is literally in the same boat with her husband. There is no other man, she has been living with me and there is no other man but her husband continues to insist that there is one but can't produce proof of it. He has driven her from her home and she can't tolerate it any more. You can't prove the affair cause there never was one. You need the help not her. It is over give it up, she is gone.
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