5 dates and no sex:(

[Anonymous]

See if things change now. If not, something is amiss.

[Anonymous]

Either he is shy, has ED, or has herpes and is waiting to tell you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either he is shy, has ED, or has herpes and is waiting to tell you.

Number three was my thought as well. Telling people you have it is excruciating. You don't want to do it too soon because you want them to know you as a person instead of a virus. And you know when you do disclose its likely to lead to rejection so you wait. If this is the case at least you can know he's an honorable guy. There's a lot of people out there who have it and don't tell which is really scary.

Anyway, more than likely he doesn't have it, but honestly when you do have sex just be careful. I agree with the pp about this guy possibly having a low sex drive. You don't want to be with someone where you have mismatched libidos.

[Anonymous]

omg it's only 5 dates! I think it's sweet that he's taking it slow, being thoughtful, and not being a slut. If you only want sex, you should look for someone else.

[Anonymous]

He may have issues w/getting it up.
You know, erectile disfunction.

After five dates, he may not feel entirely comfortable disclosing this issue w/you yet.

Men take this very personally.....It feels to them as if part of their manhood has been seriously affected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've had 5 dates with a man over the course of a month. We seem to be hitting it off but no sex yet. He isn't a virgin or new to dating. I have gone back to his place twice but he hasn't made a move. We have kissed, cuddled, and groped but that is the extent of things. On our last date we got caught in the rain. I was in only his shirt because I was wet but he made no move. I slept in his bed and we didn't do anything besides kiss. I drunkenly sent him a text tonight about when is he going to f*ck me but he didn't respond. We aren't in HS and this is getting old. I can't tell if he's maybe gay or not interested. I would hardly think he would've had me in his bed if there wasn't attraction on his part.

Maybe he is thinking the same about you. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

I, for one, am glad you texted that to him! Women should feel free to be more forward! Some men like it, some don't ... Just like some women like men who talk/text like that and some don't. But all those people saying you shouldn't because it isn't ladylike are dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I, for one, am glad you texted that to him! Women should feel free to be more forward! Some men like it, some don't ... Just like some women like men who talk/text like that and some don't. But all those people saying you shouldn't because it isn't ladylike are dumb.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:omg it's only 5 dates! I think it's sweet that he's taking it slow, being thoughtful, and not being a slut. If you only want sex, you should look for someone else.

. This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:omg it's only 5 dates! I think it's sweet that he's taking it slow, being thoughtful, and not being a slut. If you only want sex, you should look for someone else.

. This.

Agreed.

Personay I think it's sad the firs thought is something must be wrong.

[Anonymous]

PP again posted to soon. He actually sounds like a nice guy and OP is looking for a problem.

That's sad to me.
Sad that it see,s she's only dated cads in the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I, for one, am glad you texted that to him! Women should feel free to be more forward! Some men like it, some don't ... Just like some women like men who talk/text like that and some don't. But all those people saying you shouldn't because it isn't ladylike are dumb.

I assure you I'm not dumb I have the degrees to prove that. Also not a prude.
I'm completely pro adults talking about sex or lack of.

I just don't think drunk texting asking to fuck should be applauded. I'd feel the same way about a man.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I had no idea that reserving sex for emotionally-established relationships was considered so pathological.

My now-husband and I waited about two months and 12-15 dates (depending on whether you count lunches and coffees) before we had sex. We even slept over a couple of times.

Neither of us is religious. Neither was a virgin when we met. Neither of us has a disease.

We wanted to get to know each other.

That's my practice. As a result, I've never had to call or text a man after sex and ask whether he liked me or what his intentions are. I've never had to wonder whether I'd just slept with someone who didn't share my feelings.

I've never not known whether someone has deep emotional issues or herpes before we did it. Because I got to know them.

Everyone has their own approach to sex and relationships, but there's no reason to knock people who decide that sex is for people you actually know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I, for one, am glad you texted that to him! Women should feel free to be more forward! Some men like it, some don't ... Just like some women like men who talk/text like that and some don't. But all those people saying you shouldn't because it isn't ladylike are dumb.

I assure you I'm not dumb I have the degrees to prove that. Also not a prude.
I'm completely pro adults talking about sex or lack of.

I just don't think drunk texting asking to fuck should be applauded. I'd feel the same way about a man.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I had no idea that reserving sex for emotionally-established relationships was considered so pathological.

My now-husband and I waited about two months and 12-15 dates (depending on whether you count lunches and coffees) before we had sex. We even slept over a couple of times.

Neither of us is religious. Neither was a virgin when we met. Neither of us has a disease.

We wanted to get to know each other.

That's my practice. As a result, I've never had to call or text a man after sex and ask whether he liked me or what his intentions are. I've never had to wonder whether I'd just slept with someone who didn't share my feelings.

I've never not known whether someone has deep emotional issues or herpes before we did it. Because I got to know them.

Everyone has their own approach to sex and relationships, but there's no reason to knock people who decide that sex is for people you actually know.

+1.

I'm tired of feeling like a prude around here.