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Does SG Make You Meet with a Therapist Before Using Donor Sperm?
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Anonymous
| By the way, I am a lesbian, & my partner & I went to Shady Grove & used donor sperm...no therapy required as part of the protocol. |
Anonymous
Just fwiw, that's a bit of a different situation. There is no issue in terms of whether or not to provide a child with information about their genetic make-up nor is there a need to explore the impact of such a family secret on a child's development (as is the case when heterosexual couples choose not to provide their child with this information). |
Anonymous
Or the severe risk physical risk if the child didn't know their real genetic makeup and needed that information and the parents were no longer living. |
Anonymous
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A judgmental therapist is a crappy one.
I'm sorry she was such a bitch to you. Does she have a supervisor that you could contact? I would take this up with the supervisor at the fertility clinic. |
Anonymous
I don't get the point here. i was adopted from vietnam and have NO IDEA and no way to find my birth parents (nor do I want to, I'm just glad I don't toil in a rice paddy or garmet factory right now). I do not feel that I am at severe physical risk by not knowing my genetic make-up. We all get sick, we all die, we just deal with it as it comes. |
Anonymous
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My understanding is the SG requires you to see a therapist if you are using donor sperm. We had a great experience with the one we saw and she was kind and open and friendly. My situation is different because I am a lesbian in a relationship with another woman, but I felt like she asked us some good questions to think about for ourselves about what kind of conversation we wanted to have with the child about the donor. I found it useful, even though I dreaded going.
I was upset that I had to pay their contract therapist when I had my own therapist I had seen a couple years before to deal with the grief of losing my mother. My therapist was willing to meet with me and my partner, and would have cost half as much. |
Anonymous
Knowing that you don't know your genetic history is a far different situation than THINKING you know it and really not b/c your parents lied to you. Also, I can't imagine finding out that my parents lied to me and having any relationship with what so ever after finding out. |
Anonymous
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OP - if you have already had a counseling session, you shouldn't need another one at SG, based on my experience. We had a donor counseling session out of state before moving here and working with SG. Just had to contact the previous counselor to have them forward their write-up to SG RE.
Good luck to you. As someone who has walked in your shoes, it's not an easy decision or process, but all worth it in the end. |
Anonymous
Whom are you angry at? |
Anonymous
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I had to have a therapist prior to an elective surgery, thank goodness she wasn't as unprofessional and judgmental as yours sounds. I would CERTAINLY contact her superior. Her disrespect of your situation is obviously going to continue to poison other therapy sessions as well. Your taking this to another level with her superior may hopefully prevent another innocent couple from feeling as you do now.
By the way, my mother gave up my brother for adoption in 1963. (I found him in the 1990's) He overheard a conversation when he was around 10 and confronted his adopted mom. She admitted that he and his brother were both adopted- but the brother does not know. She swore him to secrecy. My brother will never tell his brother that their parents are not his biological parents. I'm sure this has happened time after time over history. Also, before DNA was so readily available, how many children do you think may have been raised by men who were not their biological fathers? More than we would suspect. No genetic problems there- at least no Earth shattering ones. As someone here already posted- we all get sick and one day we all die. Besides, there are medical histories released by both egg and sperm donors. I say God Bless and Good luck! It's about the creation and love of a child!!! |
Anonymous
| OP here...THANK YOU SO MUCH POSTERS 22:58 AND 23:51!!! YOUR POSTS HAVE BOTH MADE MY DAY. We just did a 5 day tranfer yesterday using donor sperm and I'm now engulfed in the dreadful 2ww. Trying to rest but having a hard time sitting still. Really hope this cycle works...despite the horrible experience with the therapist, I feel our decision to use donor sperm is the right one and I SO APPRECIATE the wonderful support out there. You guys are AWESOME...along with everyone else who sends along their positive vibes on this board. Thank you so much! |
Anonymous
| Sending sticky vibes your way! |