Did I Settle?

[Anonymous]

Yup. You settled. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I acted different when I was 23 compared to 27. Maybe he has changed?

That was me ( pp who wrote the first post) referring to my age. Op hasn't given her age.

[Anonymous]

Dont compare your relationship to a song. It's real life. Not something written by a professional singer/songwriter who is paid $$$$ to entertain people. You are better than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I acted different when I was 23 compared to 27. Maybe he has changed?

That was me ( pp who wrote the first post) referring to my age. Op hasn't given her age.

This is OP. I'm 29 now.

[Anonymous]

Don't marry someone who you will feel resentment towards because you "settled."

You don't want to end up like some posters here who are disappointed in their husbands. They projected their own unrealistic aspirations onto their husbands and then resent them for failing to live up to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I acted different when I was 23 compared to 27. Maybe he has changed?

That was me ( pp who wrote the first post) referring to my age. Op hasn't given her age.

This is OP. I'm 29 now.

Still plenty of time, OP. I met my now DH at 29, right after a big breakup. I would never ever ever have posted this question about my DH, but would have about my ex. The fact that you posted this means you should move on.

[Anonymous]

Has he changed and matured?

[Anonymous]

I don't listen to Taylor Swift. To be blunt, why would you get back in a relationship with a guy who treated you badly? I don't think you should get engaged, let alone get married. First, you resent his treatment of you. That is fair, but who wants to start of an engagement with someone they resent? Who wants to get engaged to a person you feel like you're "settling" with. Honestly, you should do him and yourself a favor by breaking up and moving on. I think the resentment and feelings that you settled will cause issues down the road. If you're not in love, end it and find a guy you're excited to marry.

This. And, none of us know if you're with him because you're 'settling' or because you are (to quote a PP) 'in familiar'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't marry someone who you will feel resentment towards because you "settled."

You don't want to end up like some posters here who are disappointed in their husbands. They projected their own unrealistic aspirations onto their husbands and then resent them for failing to live up to them.

No matter who you marry, chances are dh wont live up to your expectations. Its the name of the game.

[Anonymous]

When a person shows you their true colors the first time, always believe them.

[Anonymous]

If you have to ask the question, you already know the answer. When you are with the right person and feel loved and respected, you never have to ask if you are settling.

You know he isn't the right guy for you but are hoping you can logic your way into staying with him because break ups are scary. Bite the bullet now and don't kick the can down the road. You know in your heart that at some point you will end things with him. Better now than 10 years, kids and a house later.

[Anonymous]

You're only dating, so the question is wrong.
It should be 'Should I Settle?'. No. But if you want, spend some time with him and see if your opinion of him changes

[Anonymous]

He wants to get married. You resent him. The answer is obvious. There's no requirement that you get married so you don't have to and shouldn't say yes.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your relationship has a weak foundation. Even if it gets better, you'll remember this. And when you have kids, and things get rough, that weak point is bound to fracture under the stress.