How to help DD to be more assertive and have a social life

[Anonymous]

Also OP, if it is for this weekend or next a lot of people are getting out of dodge.

Fcps starting and ending so late makes thr year seem so long. Your daughter just might have bad timing for this incident.

[Anonymous]

Don't let her cancel on the one friend. This is how friendships are made, one on one. Maybe your dd is a one on one friend. I don't understand her pressure on herself to hang out as a group. Encourage her to make one or two real friends that she can call on the phone and hang out with.

Trust me that if she cancels on the one girl, that one girl will be a lot less likely to say yes to anything your dd initiates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also OP, if it is for this weekend or next a lot of people are getting out of dodge.

Fcps starting and ending so late makes thr year seem so long. Your daughter just might have bad timing for this incident.

OP here:
Thank you PP for responding.
This is for this weekend, and as you said, it could be bad timing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't let her cancel on the one friend. This is how friendships are made, one on one. Maybe your dd is a one on one friend. I don't understand her pressure on herself to hang out as a group. Encourage her to make one or two real friends that she can call on the phone and hang out with.

Trust me that if she cancels on the one girl, that one girl will be a lot less likely to say yes to anything your dd initiates.

Thank you for responding back.
@bold, appreciate what you said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't cancel on the one girl.

Go do something fun like a movie or just hanging out.

+1 Better to take this small positive step than to give up just because some girls declined. Celebrate that one girl is interested and build from there.

OP here:

Thank you to both of you.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to project an aura of the kind of person she wants to be friends with. So that means being open, confident and friendly, usually. Tell her that everyone is feeling as self conscious as she is, so not to worry about it. Just go in there and try to summon up the kind of VIBE that she would want to be around in others, and try to embody that.

[Anonymous]

It's probably better to have one friend over at a time. My son occasionally has more than one friend over at a time and even though these kids are all friends, the dynamics seem off. I'm sure girls are much different. One at a time is not a bad thing at all. Go with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's probably better to have one friend over at a time. My son occasionally has more than one friend over at a time and even though these kids are all friends, the dynamics seem off. I'm sure girls are much different. One at a time is not a bad thing at all. Go with it.

Agree with this. My 13 yr old DS is very social at school, moving between a couple different big friend groups. But on the weekends he really just hangs out with 1-2 close friends. He told me recently that one of those in particular is his "solitary friend", the one he can really talk with and so likes to hang out just the two of them. I'm so glad he has that friend.