Redshirting from Kindergarten

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

wow, so inappropriate to bash this PP! it is a very valuable perspective to hear and makes sense. If the issues are not likely to change with time, then redshirting may be pointless or even counterproductive.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

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I redshirted my summer bday boy with Aspergers. He had a lot working against him and would have been one of the youngest in his K class.

He will always have Aspergers, redshirt is no magical solution. But we put in real hard work in the extra year, continuing therapies we wouldn't have had time for in a full-day K: OT, behavioral therapy, speech therapy group...

I'd say if you skip K, make sure to use the time to the max. We put our child in an SN environment to spend time with specialists... not just floundering in an NT environment hating it! Well... mine hated school before this past year of going to a SN environ.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc. But many SN parents have kids with cognitive impairments. I am always confused as to where those parents are, but most do not post on here, apparently. We would be lucky to get a GED.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc. But many SN parents have kids with cognitive impairments. I am always confused as to where those parents are, but most do not post on here, apparently. We would be lucky to get a GED.

SN is not just about cognitive impairments where kids are significantly disabled. Our child has SN but we hope and are planning for him to go to college. In all reality, we don't know what the future holds, but we are hoping for the best and planning for the worst. The terms SN is too broad as is calling Autism a spectrum as it could mean anything from mild concerns to severe issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc. But many SN parents have kids with cognitive impairments. I am always confused as to where those parents are, but most do not post on here, apparently. We would be lucky to get a GED.

SN is not just about cognitive impairments where kids are significantly disabled. Our child has SN but we hope and are planning for him to go to college. In all reality, we don't know what the future holds, but we are hoping for the best and planning for the worst. The terms SN is too broad as is calling Autism a spectrum as it could mean anything from mild concerns to severe issues.

yes, obviously, I know this. But posters like you are the ones who post. Those with more severe impairments very rarely post.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc.

PP with Asperger's. I do go to college. It isn't a stellar college, but I'm still getting a degree. In fact, I'll have my degree a semester early. Who says your kid has to be bright to go to college? Certainly, that's the case for an Ivy League, but for a lot of the state colleges, there should be no problem. I'd strongly discourage parents from giving up on their kids so easily, because people who neglect to go to college usually can never be successful in life, and no one will ever take them seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc.

PP with Asperger's. I do go to college. It isn't a stellar college, but I'm still getting a degree. In fact, I'll have my degree a semester early. Who says your kid has to be bright to go to college? Certainly, that's the case for an Ivy League, but for a lot of the state colleges, there should be no problem. I'd strongly discourage parents from giving up on their kids so easily, because people who neglect to go to college usually can never be successful in life, and no one will ever take them seriously.

People with intellectual disabilities don't "neglect" to go to college. They are not capable of it. And yet, they will be taken "seriously" by those that know and love them.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc.

PP with Asperger's. I do go to college. It isn't a stellar college, but I'm still getting a degree. In fact, I'll have my degree a semester early. Who says your kid has to be bright to go to college? Certainly, that's the case for an Ivy League, but for a lot of the state colleges, there should be no problem. I'd strongly discourage parents from giving up on their kids so easily, because people who neglect to go to college usually can never be successful in life, and no one will ever take them seriously.

People with intellectual disabilities don't "neglect" to go to college. They are not capable of it. And yet, they will be taken "seriously" by those that know and love them.

What do you mean they're not capable of it? There are some colleges that require a stellar gpa and stellar SAT scores for admissions, but then there are also colleges that will take people with okay grades, because they want to give those people a chance at having a successful life as well. Why not just send your kid to one of those colleges? Depending on the professors and the major, they can get just as good an education as they can anywhere. Trust me, I go to a mediocre college, and I'm pretty satisfied with the education I've received there. Why not give them a shot?

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc.

PP with Asperger's. I do go to college. It isn't a stellar college, but I'm still getting a degree. In fact, I'll have my degree a semester early. Who says your kid has to be bright to go to college? Certainly, that's the case for an Ivy League, but for a lot of the state colleges, there should be no problem. I'd strongly discourage parents from giving up on their kids so easily, because people who neglect to go to college usually can never be successful in life, and no one will ever take them seriously.

People with intellectual disabilities don't "neglect" to go to college. They are not capable of it. And yet, they will be taken "seriously" by those that know and love them.

What do you mean they're not capable of it? There are some colleges that require a stellar gpa and stellar SAT scores for admissions, but then there are also colleges that will take people with okay grades, because they want to give those people a chance at having a successful life as well. Why not just send your kid to one of those colleges? Depending on the professors and the major, they can get just as good an education as they can anywhere. Trust me, I go to a mediocre college, and I'm pretty satisfied with the education I've received there. Why not give them a shot?

I don't think you understand that a lot of children with special needs have limitations that may result in their being limited in what they can learn and how much they can achieve academically.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc.

PP with Asperger's. I do go to college. It isn't a stellar college, but I'm still getting a degree. In fact, I'll have my degree a semester early. Who says your kid has to be bright to go to college? Certainly, that's the case for an Ivy League, but for a lot of the state colleges, there should be no problem. I'd strongly discourage parents from giving up on their kids so easily, because people who neglect to go to college usually can never be successful in life, and no one will ever take them seriously.

People with intellectual disabilities don't "neglect" to go to college. They are not capable of it. And yet, they will be taken "seriously" by those that know and love them.

What do you mean they're not capable of it? There are some colleges that require a stellar gpa and stellar SAT scores for admissions, but then there are also colleges that will take people with okay grades, because they want to give those people a chance at having a successful life as well. Why not just send your kid to one of those colleges? Depending on the professors and the major, they can get just as good an education as they can anywhere. Trust me, I go to a mediocre college, and I'm pretty satisfied with the education I've received there. Why not give them a shot?

I don't think you understand that a lot of children with special needs have limitations that may result in their being limited in what they can learn and how much they can achieve academically.

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Alright. But I have to wonder what these parents have planned for their children if they're not sending them to college. I know a 26-year-old woman who has not yet earned a Bachelor's Degree and has been living with her parents ever since she graduated from high school. Chances are, she'll outlive her parents and I shudder to think what will become of her then. If you don't plan for your kid to go college, you'd better find another way for them so secure a stable job, because otherwise, what's going to happen to them once they no longer have Mommy and Daddy to carry them?

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. The same goes for a lot of disabilities. Waiting a year won't magically make things better. It'll just delay his problem. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.

You have no idea. So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.

Take this post with a grain of salt. Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum. This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post. Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities." Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line. My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes. You do what you think is best for your kid.

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.

I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future. That's a preposterous metric.

Amen. I think this poster wandered in from GP. My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky. I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc.

PP with Asperger's. I do go to college. It isn't a stellar college, but I'm still getting a degree. In fact, I'll have my degree a semester early. Who says your kid has to be bright to go to college? Certainly, that's the case for an Ivy League, but for a lot of the state colleges, there should be no problem. I'd strongly discourage parents from giving up on their kids so easily, because people who neglect to go to college usually can never be successful in life, and no one will ever take them seriously.

People with intellectual disabilities don't "neglect" to go to college. They are not capable of it. And yet, they will be taken "seriously" by those that know and love them.

What do you mean they're not capable of it? There are some colleges that require a stellar gpa and stellar SAT scores for admissions, but then there are also colleges that will take people with okay grades, because they want to give those people a chance at having a successful life as well. Why not just send your kid to one of those colleges? Depending on the professors and the major, they can get just as good an education as they can anywhere. Trust me, I go to a mediocre college, and I'm pretty satisfied with the education I've received there. Why not give them a shot?

I don't think you understand that a lot of children with special needs have limitations that may result in their being limited in what they can learn and how much they can achieve academically.

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Alright. But I have to wonder what these parents have planned for their children if they're not sending them to college. I know a 26-year-old woman who has not yet earned a Bachelor's Degree and has been living with her parents ever since she graduated from high school. Chances are, she'll outlive her parents and I shudder to think what will become of her then. If you don't plan for your kid to go college, you'd better find another way for them so secure a stable job, because otherwise, what's going to happen to them once they no longer have Mommy and Daddy to carry them?

I am not sure why I am engaging, but do you really not understand mental retardation or profound issues with motor/speech/etc.? The parents are obviously doing everything they can. Many of these kids will never live alone, and that is known and understood. Kids with genetic syndromes, brain defects, strokes, severe CP. Do you really not get it?