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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Waiting a year won't magically make things better. I know from experience. My parents redshirted me because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Guess what? Even being a year older than everyone, I never fit in socially, which makes sense. At 22 years old, there are social concepts that 7 year olds understand that I don't. I could have been help back twice, 3 times, 4 times, however many times, and I still would have struggled socially. Waiting a year did not solve any of my problems. It just delayed them. [b]The same goes for a lot of disabilities.[/b] Waiting a year won't magically make things better. [b]It'll just delay his problem[/b]. I wish it were as simple as redshirting, but it isn't.[/quote]

You have no idea.  So, pick up a social cue, stop trolling the SN board.[/quote]

He's not trolling, he's offering his perspective as an adult with similar issues as many of our children, including the OP's. I appreciate his perspective. It's not easy making decisions in my child's best interests without knowing how he'll think of those choices as an adult.[/quote]

Take this post with a grain of salt.  Your post doesn't come up in recent and has gone "below the fold" on the SN forum.  This person may in fact have Asperger's, but had to search for this post.  Plus, he/she is generalizes about what goes for "a lot of disabilities."  Being on the spectrum doesn't give you expertise into other disabilities.

My SN kid repeated K and doesn't give it a second thought 10 years down the line.  My NT spouse's parents delayed K and the same goes.   You do what you think is best for your kid.[/quote]

Okay. All I have to say is that not redshirting might in both the parents' and the child's interest. If a child enters school a year late, they'll graduate high school a year late, get their Bachelor's Degree a year late, get their Master's Degree a year late, and start earning money a year late, which means that they won't make as much money in the long run. As for parents, supporting a child is a very expensive business. The earlier you send them to school, the earlier you'll be able to stop supporting them. I mean, do you really want your kid living under your roof at 23? If you feel like redshirting will earn you and your child more money in the long run, then go ahead, but otherwise, there's every reason to send them on time.[/quote]

[b]I don't think there's a single SN parent who makes decisions for their delayed 4 or 5 year old based on what will help them and their child earn more in the future.[/b] That's a preposterous metric.[/quote]

Amen.  I think this poster wandered in from GP.  My kid may not even graduate HS; maybe a GED if we're lucky.  I know there are parents with SN kids who have brighter futures, but many of parents on here agonize about how our kids as adults and will survive.[/quote]

plus 1,000. This board often gets clogged with parents with "very bright" children who are likely to go to college, etc. [/quote]

PP with Asperger's. I do go to college. It isn't a stellar college, but I'm still getting a degree. In fact, I'll have my degree a semester early. Who says your kid has to be bright to go to college? Certainly, that's the case for an Ivy League, but for a lot of the state colleges, there should be no problem. I'd strongly discourage parents from giving up on their kids so easily, because people who neglect to go to college usually can never be successful in life, and no one will ever take them seriously.
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