How did you "find yourself" after your divorce?

[Anonymous]

Therapy
Volunteering
At least one new social hobby
Reconnect with worthy family/friends
Take your time. Don't beat yourself up.

[Anonymous]

I also divorced in my 20's with no kids. I'm not really into the bar scene so I found an apartment I really loved and felt like a sanctuary. I really found solace in simple things like reading a book on my balcony, listening to jazz music, and not having the TV on. I didn't have cable or wi-Fi. I took my dog for long walks and went running a lot. It was kind of learning to love time with myself, enjoying the quiet (ex husband always had to have the TV blaring), and doing whatever made me happy. I became friends with my new neighbors. I found a great guy about 7 months after my separation and I'm still with him over 2 years later. You'll find who you are without forcing it. It's kind of fun, re-discovering yourself.

[Anonymous]

I just read "Crazy Time" by Abigail Trafford. Great book that touches on all the post-divorce junk you have to go through.

I am also old, with kids, and often feel like I'm totally washed up and lost. But then I have bright days, when I feel like I have my shit somewhat together. So, two steps forward, one step back. FWIW, 17 yr marriage, sep 2 yrs.

Good luck, and be kind to yourself.

[Anonymous]

You are about to enter an enviable new phase in your life....One that not everyone gets the opportunity to do.

You are no longer a tiny caterpillar trapped on a leaf while imprisoned in a glass jar.

You are now a full-fledged butterfly who can do anything....Go anywhere your heart desires.

Many people are too weak to leave a bad marriage, they prefer to stay in their comfort zones which is less scary.
Sadly they waste away their identities in order to please others.

You get to finally know who you are! Let everything fall into place organically and see where it all goes.

Like reading? Join or create a book club where you can meet others with similar interests & perspectives.

Love animals?? Volunteer at a pet shelter and make a huge difference for homeless animals.
Even better, try fostering a pet then consider adopting one. Or two.

Interested in foreign language? Take a beginning course at your local Jr. College.
Like traveling or never had the opportunity?
Now is the time to do so.

Visit relatives. Re-connect with old friends. Learn to play tennis. Or crafting.

The list goes on forever......

The best is yet to come!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm 34...so not young, but not old.
I don't have children, but just can't help but feel that I'm washed up.

It's hard to face the music.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I submitted a proposal to a publishing house that I take a "trip" around the world to various countries on their dime then write about the experience... I thought, what a great way to see the world and eat, love, and pray about my current situation. Possibly meet new people, too? Heck yes! I went for it and they bit. I traveled to far away places and certainly did FIND myself in ways I never could have sitting at home attempting to fit into the day to day office life that so many women accept as what is their path.

Try it, OP, you could truly find yourself!

Nobody believes you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are about to enter an enviable new phase in your life....One that not everyone gets the opportunity to do.

You are no longer a tiny caterpillar trapped on a leaf while imprisoned in a glass jar.

You are now a full-fledged butterfly who can do anything....Go anywhere your heart desires.

Many people are too weak to leave a bad marriage, they prefer to stay in their comfort zones which is less scary.
Sadly they waste away their identities in order to please others.

You get to finally know who you are! Let everything fall into place organically and see where it all goes.

Like reading? Join or create a book club where you can meet others with similar interests & perspectives.

Love animals?? Volunteer at a pet shelter and make a huge difference for homeless animals.
Even better, try fostering a pet then consider adopting one. Or two.

Interested in foreign language? Take a beginning course at your local Jr. College.
Like traveling or never had the opportunity?
Now is the time to do so.

Visit relatives. Re-connect with old friends. Learn to play tennis. Or crafting.

The list goes on forever......

The best is yet to come!

New poster but Thank you! I really needed this today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are about to enter an enviable new phase in your life....One that not everyone gets the opportunity to do.

You are no longer a tiny caterpillar trapped on a leaf while imprisoned in a glass jar.

You are now a full-fledged butterfly who can do anything....Go anywhere your heart desires.

Many people are too weak to leave a bad marriage, they prefer to stay in their comfort zones which is less scary.
Sadly they waste away their identities in order to please others.

You get to finally know who you are! Let everything fall into place organically and see where it all goes.

Like reading? Join or create a book club where you can meet others with similar interests & perspectives.

Love animals?? Volunteer at a pet shelter and make a huge difference for homeless animals.
Even better, try fostering a pet then consider adopting one. Or two.

Interested in foreign language? Take a beginning course at your local Jr. College.
Like traveling or never had the opportunity?
Now is the time to do so.

Visit relatives. Re-connect with old friends. Learn to play tennis. Or crafting.

The list goes on forever......

The best is yet to come!

Live this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm 34...so not young, but not old.
I don't have children, but just can't help but feel that I'm washed up.

It's hard to face the music.

Do you get something out of saying rude shit to strangers on the Internet? Was your Daddy mean to you or do was it your mother.
My guess is your mother.

[Anonymous]

"The best is yet to come" post is so true. I honestly feel like my divorce has given me a second chance at life. I do not feel washed up and I have not had any issues whatsoever meeting men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I submitted a proposal to a publishing house that I take a "trip" around the world to various countries on their dime then write about the experience... I thought, what a great way to see the world and eat, love, and pray about my current situation. Possibly meet new people, too? Heck yes! I went for it and they bit. I traveled to far away places and certainly did FIND myself in ways I never could have sitting at home attempting to fit into the day to day office life that so many women accept as what is their path.

Try it, OP, you could truly find yourself!

Nobody believes you.

Oh FFS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Do you get something out of saying rude shit to strangers on the Internet? Was your Daddy mean to you or do was it your mother.
My guess is your mother.

Truth hurts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Do you get something out of saying rude shit to strangers on the Internet? Was your Daddy mean to you or do was it your mother.
My guess is your mother.

Truth hurts.

Oh dear. It's back.

[Anonymous]

I got a PhD. I figured that time would suck anyway so I might as well double up and get something out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Binge drinking
Lowering of standards to...
...have lots and lots of sex with guys I normally wouldn't have considered in my younger days

Repeat

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