Dealing with a child's disappointment with college admissions process
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Anonymous
| Two words - "Glory Days" |
Anonymous
| Op why are you in such a rush to fix your dd's feelings about this? Why are you so afraid for her to be sad? You know the truth about how this will most likely play out in the long run because you have life perspective. She doesn't yet. You can't solve that for her. |
Anonymous
| OP - here's a suggestion that might be helpful. If you live in VA, your DD can transfer to UVA providing she takes the right courses at NOVA and gets the right grades. It's an often unused approach and VERY VERY smart. Please educate her about it. With soaring university prices, the community college approach makes a lot of sense. Md. may have the same - I don't know - but show her how smart that move can be. My cousin did it in the California system and moved from community college to UCLA after two years. |
Anonymous
My brother did a guaranteed admissions program at CC to a 4 year school in WA state. It's a great way to save money. Also, let her be sad. She's sad, and that's OK. She's allowed to have her feelings, as long as she's not taking them out on other people in negative ways, and that can help her figure out what to do next. |
Anonymous
| And it's a reasonable thing to be sad about. She didn't get her crap together and now her outcome isn't what she prefers. Lesson learned. |
Anonymous
| Maybe this is the motivation she needs. Love her unconditionally and let her have her feelings. Perhaps now she will do what she needs to get where she wants. |
Anonymous
| If you are in Maryland, she could do one to two years at MC and then move on to UMD or other in-state schools as long as she gets good grades; Likewise, 1 to 2 years at NOVA can lead to some great in-state options in Virginia. Ignore the queen bees of the world; she should focus on herself and not let the mean girls dictate her feelings. As long as she focuses on doing well academically in community college, she can eventually reach her goals. |
Anonymous
| Agree with a minority of the other posters here. What went wrong that she couldn't even get into Longwood or Frostburg State or something? Finances, LD, mental health issues, what? That is key missing information that will govern your response to her disappointment. |
Anonymous
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Well, financially you're making the right decision, OP! And I'm sure your daughter can work hard, get stellar grades and recommendations and enter a very good university. I know it's hard right now, but tell your daughter that life is long, and decades from now, she might live a dream life (interesting job and kind husband and cute kids)... and Miss Charm might not! |
Anonymous
| There is one truth regarding education in this country: It does not matter where you start, it matters where you finish. |
Anonymous
| If you are in VA, yes, NVCC has an amazing guaranteed transfer program to, among other places, UVa. It's really not that hard to achieve. |
Anonymous
Yes. |
Anonymous
Winner, winner, chicken dinner! |
Anonymous
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All this coddling and excuse-making didn't get OP's daughter very far, did it? You and your sycophants here are rationalizing how your daughter will turn out better than the gorgeous bitch-face babe.
Let's face facts: the gorgeous girl is FAR ahead of your daughter. She's only going to keep leaving your daughter in the dust UNLESS you all stop making excuses for her. Grow up. All of you. |
Anonymous
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She doesn't have to go to community college!
http://www.nacacnet.org/research/research-data/College-Openings/Pages/College-Openings-Results.aspx |