DW bitches about me on DCUM. Should I care?

[Anonymous]

Look, objective, scientific studies show that women/wives still do an unfair share of the unpaid domestic labor. In DC, many of these wives also have high-paying jobs and bring in at least half, if not more, of the family income. So I think that all DCUM DHs have a rebuttable presumption of being jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How the fuck do you know it's her ? Troll

Successful troll is successful.

[Anonymous]

I only found this forum after I noticed it on my wife's laptop day after day. honestly, I couldn't care less what she says about me, but then again I'm at the stage of not really caring what she thinks about me anymore.

How many people believe half of what gets posted here anyway? if even a quarter of the things on here are true then almost everyone is having an affair, is planning on divorce or has some weird fired tuna fetish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's really inappropriate of her, OP. Some people confuse DCUM with a place to vent and justify spewing hateful crap about their spouses that would be better off said in a therapy session. Main reason is often people CAN identify others here. And, people tend to exaggerate when complaining about their spouse or paint them in the worst light possible in a pathetic bid for sympathy.

So, I suggest you confront your wife about this and if she doesn't grovel and apologize, divorce the cunt.

I think the poster is supposed to be describing a composite figure, not an actual individual.

This.
Like Chaka Khan/Whitney Houston's song, "I'm Every Woman"
I mean, you're not REALLY every woman/DH.
C'mon.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry that you are unappreciated. Marriage is about a relationship that is vibrant and thriving. For there to be mutual respect, you need to work together to understand one another, appreciate one another and move forward in your relationship. Have you told your wife how she makes you feel? Has she share with you her frustrations? Can you come together and talk it through and come up with a new game plan for your marriage. I have been married for 27 years, and I can tell you, it takes work. When one of you is seeming distant, find out why. You do need to be respected and valued as a husband and a father. It makes life meaningful and gives you the desire to move forward.

[Anonymous]

I don't bitch about my DH but I'll nitpick your post, OP.

You say you "do your best" and "work hard." Where does that get you? I mean, if someone with no arms TRIED to throw a ball, they may have tried hard, but what people judge is how far the ball went, and what the speed was as it traveled. If you TRY HARD to push a piano up a hill but at the end of the day it's still at the bottom, even if you're drenched with sweat, you haven't accomplished anything.

So I ask, what do you accomplish? Just something to consider. Trying is nice. Accomplishing is better.

[Anonymous]

Okay, I'll bite. This is my husband's definition of "trying hard":
I came home last night. A little late because Metro sucks. He is standing there making himself dinner. I see him at the stove and say "Great! What did you make the kids." He says "No, this is for me. Do you want me to make them something? What should I make?" (His cooking skills, FWIW, are limited to defrosting something, boiling water for pasta, and frying an egg.) It would have been so great had the kids been fed, or if anything had even been started or even if the decision as to what to feed them had been made.

But I said nothing because I am trying not to be the nagging bitch that always points out what ELSE he could be doing. So here I am posting on DCUM. I suspect a lot of wives post their complaints on DCUM because it is like screaming it into an empty forest. If we told our husbands all of these things, there would be an even higher divorce rate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. This is my husband's definition of "trying hard":
I came home last night. A little late because Metro sucks. He is standing there making himself dinner. I see him at the stove and say "Great! What did you make the kids." He says "No, this is for me. Do you want me to make them something? What should I make?" (His cooking skills, FWIW, are limited to defrosting something, boiling water for pasta, and frying an egg.) It would have been so great had the kids been fed, or if anything had even been started or even if the decision as to what to feed them had been made.

But I said nothing because I am trying not to be the nagging bitch that always points out what ELSE he could be doing. So here I am posting on DCUM. I suspect a lot of wives post their complaints on DCUM because it is like screaming it into an empty forest. If we told our husbands all of these things, there would be an even higher divorce rate.

Wow. What a dick. What did you say? Doesn't he know they need to be fed? Daily? Multiple times?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. This is my husband's definition of "trying hard":
I came home last night. A little late because Metro sucks. He is standing there making himself dinner. I see him at the stove and say "Great! What did you make the kids." He says "No, this is for me. Do you want me to make them something? What should I make?" (His cooking skills, FWIW, are limited to defrosting something, boiling water for pasta, and frying an egg.) It would have been so great had the kids been fed, or if anything had even been started or even if the decision as to what to feed them had been made.

But I said nothing because I am trying not to be the nagging bitch that always points out what ELSE he could be doing. So here I am posting on DCUM. I suspect a lot of wives post their complaints on DCUM because it is like screaming it into an empty forest. If we told our husbands all of these things, there would be an even higher divorce rate.

At least yours is able to feed himself. Mine waits till I get home then asks whats for dinner as I walk through the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely not the site for female accountability. In the entire world those two words rarely go together.

Also, about the cooking thing. I volunteer to cook, but my wife won't let me because she knows I'll make the same meal (some variation of chicken/rice/vegetables) every single night and never get tired of it.

[Anonymous]

The OP sounds like a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely not the site for female accountability. In the entire world those two words rarely go together.

I have no sympathy for their complains, but your statement is even worse. What an imbecile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OP sounds like a woman.

I was thinking the same thing! It was the "amazing..." bit that gave it away. Tell us the truth OP, are we right?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I love and hate DCUM. I respect posters who seek out wisdow from this community. I weep when 2/3 of the postings blame DHs for all evils in relationships and the world. I thank all of you who have an open heart and open mind for discussing real issues that merit dialogue and different perspectives. I do not hesitate to mock mindless anti-DH threads and posts. I learn a little from this conmunity every day. I am a DH, bitches.

[Anonymous]

Pleeeeeeenty of dhs on here being judgey assholes too op. There is a whole thread asking for dws BMI and many a thread saying women are frigid and marriage is for sucker and women are coercing men into having children.

It's an anonymous forum, people like to talk.