Attending wedding is too expensive

I would just decline and if you think it will cause hurt feelings send a gift. I also agree with pp that a gift is NOT required, gifts are never required for these types of things but sometimes they can help keep the peace. Also your cousin may not care at all. I wasn't able to attend my cousins destination wedding and this is someone I'm very close too but I simply couldn't afford it. They weren't upset at all and never questioned it. Hopefully your cousin will feel the same way.

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05/26/2016 12:05

Subject: Attending wedding is too expensive

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Anonymous wrote:I just got an invitation to a wedding, when I specifically told my friend I couldn't attend 6 months ago. No, I am not sending a gift. I only send gifts when I attend weddings. I'm declining another wedding actually because the groom sent me a text (after I received the save the date but begore I got the wedding invite) telling me where they are registered but that they also wanted cash in addition to the registry. Yeah no, I'm not participating in tacky gift grabs!

I wouldn't assume the first invitation is a gift grab. Your friend likely sent it just in case you end up being available.

Agreed. I would never not send a friend or family member a wedding invitation, even if I knew they couldn't come and the invite was just a formality. It would seem so rude not to invite them. I wouldn't expect a gift, so don't think you need to send one, but just wanted to give a different perspective so you don't wrongly judge your friend!