Adult children living with parents; are they having kids of their own?

[Anonymous]

There's a woman in my neighborhood who has been living with her parents for six years since her divorce, and a year before that. She's 40+yrs old and makes a sizable salary. Most people around here thinks it's weird and gross. She uses her parents for their mansion and childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's a woman in my neighborhood who has been living with her parents for six years since her divorce, and a year before that. She's 40+yrs old and makes a sizable salary. Most people around here thinks it's weird and gross. She uses her parents for their mansion and childcare.

Most people around the world would think it's normal, and healthy, for a family to live together. Grandparents looking after the kids, mother working and contributing to the grandparents' upkeep of the home, kids seeing their family... what's not normal about this?

The problem is that Americans have gotten way too individualistic and proprietary about their personal space. Suddenly kids sharing a room, or a contributing adult living with parents and kids, are not appropriate anymore? Now THAT is crazy.

[Anonymous]

Well, my 40-something BIL lives with my MIL (FIL just died) and has his two kids he had out of wedlock with the way-too-young now-ex girlfriend in tow. He contributes very little to the home and grandma was also burdened with childcare duties all while caring for a parapalegic who was bedridden with cancer for almost a year. He probably could move out-they live in a much cheaper area, but that would mean a small apartment, paying for all their food and his kids going to a less desirable school. Why would he ever leave?

I hate him with a fiery passion for the shit he's put his family through.

[Anonymous]

Re-connected with an old friend after 8 years or so; his oldest of 3 was in college locally and the 2 younger ones were in HS 8 years ago.

All 3 are still living at home today.

This seems to be a thing these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's a woman in my neighborhood who has been living with her parents for six years since her divorce, and a year before that. She's 40+yrs old and makes a sizable salary. Most people around here thinks it's weird and gross. She uses her parents for their mansion and childcare.

Does anyone find the gossiping neighbors weird or gross?

I honestly don't see the big deal. Maybe they all like it that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a woman in my neighborhood who has been living with her parents for six years since her divorce, and a year before that. She's 40+yrs old and makes a sizable salary. Most people around here thinks it's weird and gross. She uses her parents for their mansion and childcare.

Does anyone find the gossiping neighbors weird or gross?

I honestly don't see the big deal. Maybe they all like it that way.

Perhaps you are not cut out for life in the suburbs? Gossip comes with the territory.

[Anonymous]

Most of the adult children living with parents who have kids did so because they had an unplanned pregnancy and now need the help of parents to shelter them and take care of their child or children while they try to establish themselves financially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of the adult children living with parents who have kids did so because they had an unplanned pregnancy and now need the help of parents to shelter them and take care of their child or children while they try to establish themselves financially.

BIL and baby momma claim they PLANNED pregnancy #2 - then, "OOPS, can't afford baby #2, can we come back and live with you guys again?" Then baby momma ran out on her kids so she could go shack up with someone else.

Establishing themselves financially? Would that include spending whatever little money they do have on ginormous tats while claiming they are too poor to feed their kids without help?

I do hope there are some who actually are trying hard to get themselves on their feet - it doesn't include the idiot doing it in our family.

[KDspicer]

We buy properties that we can rent to our kids for a lot less than they would pay somewhere else, and they live there until they are able to get their own places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
As a middle class European living in a capital city, I lived at home and commuted to my university, which was in the same city. All my friends did the same.

Then we graduated, I moved to the US to go to grad school, but my friends continued to live at home to continue their studies.

As soon as they got married, they got their own place and started having kids.

This is how a lot of people do it in developed countries. Most kids in Europe in share bedrooms too, the horror!

Sounds like smart financial planning...
far beyond most Americans.

Better to graduate enormous debt.

[Anonymous]

KDspicer wrote:We buy properties that we can rent to our kids for a lot less than they would pay somewhere else, and they live there until they are able to get their own places.

Subsidized housing residents rarely move. Why should they?