TO THE MOM WHO RED SHIRTED HER SON AND COMPLAINS HE'S NOT CHALLENGED

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People don't typically redshirt because of academic concerns. They redshirt because of social concerns. Don't worry, nobody is trying to show up your little Larla.

That's fine, but then don't complain that it's not challenging enough. That is really annoying.

I agree with you OP.

Well, try to have a little sympathy. I'm the mom of a (very tall, very verbal and bright) boy who might have to be redshirted for behavioral/maturity/social issues. Do you think I like having to chose between his social adjustment and his academic challenge? If I didn't redshirt him I am POSITIVE you'd be on here complaining about the "weird kid" or the "aggressive kid" that would as a result be bothering your Larlita.

It's kindergarten. Send your immature boy, he will have plenty of company. I mean this.

[Anonymous]

I agree, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People don't typically redshirt because of academic concerns. They redshirt because of social concerns. Don't worry, nobody is trying to show up your little Larla.

That's fine, but then don't complain that it's not challenging enough. That is really annoying.

I agree with you OP.

Well, try to have a little sympathy. I'm the mom of a (very tall, very verbal and bright) boy who might have to be redshirted for behavioral/maturity/social issues. Do you think I like having to chose between his social adjustment and his academic challenge? If I didn't redshirt him I am POSITIVE you'd be on here complaining about the "weird kid" or the "aggressive kid" that would as a result be bothering your Larlita.

It's kindergarten. Send your immature boy, he will have plenty of company. I mean this.

Not necessarily true. Some kids aren't ready to sit still all day in a classroom with 20 other kids, being given group directions. K is really very academic now, tests using computers, worksheets, etc.

If some kids went, you would be complaining about the "annoying kid who disrupts class so the other snowflakes can't learn"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People don't typically redshirt because of academic concerns. They redshirt because of social concerns. Don't worry, nobody is trying to show up your little Larla.

That's fine, but then don't complain that it's not challenging enough. That is really annoying.

I agree with you OP.

Well, try to have a little sympathy. I'm the mom of a (very tall, very verbal and bright) boy who might have to be redshirted for behavioral/maturity/social issues. Do you think I like having to chose between his social adjustment and his academic challenge? If I didn't redshirt him I am POSITIVE you'd be on here complaining about the "weird kid" or the "aggressive kid" that would as a result be bothering your Larlita.

It's kindergarten. Send your immature boy, he will have plenty of company. I mean this.

Not necessarily true. Some kids aren't ready to sit still all day in a classroom with 20 other kids, being given group directions. K is really very academic now, tests using computers, worksheets, etc.



If some kids went, you would be complaining about the "annoying kid who disrupts class so the other snowflakes can't learn"

So send your kid to private K and then to first grade. That way they would have Kindergarten in a smaller setting with more play and recess. To redshirt you would need to pay for another year of pre K or private K anyway. Give your child that year in a smaller or possibly more nurturing environment and then send them on time with their age to first grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People don't typically redshirt because of academic concerns. They redshirt because of social concerns. Don't worry, nobody is trying to show up your little Larla.

That's fine, but then don't complain that it's not challenging enough. That is really annoying.

I agree with you OP.

Well, try to have a little sympathy. I'm the mom of a (very tall, very verbal and bright) boy who might have to be redshirted for behavioral/maturity/social issues. Do you think I like having to chose between his social adjustment and his academic challenge? If I didn't redshirt him I am POSITIVE you'd be on here complaining about the "weird kid" or the "aggressive kid" that would as a result be bothering your Larlita.

As I stated, that's fine, just don't complain about how your kid is not being challenged. That's all I'm (and OP and others) saying. Of course it's not going to be challenging if your kid is older and on-real-grade level academically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok- I can't say this publicly but it really makes me mad.

I have a daughter with an August Birthday and your son is a full 17 months older than my daughter and they are in the same class.
I can't stand it that you say that the classwork is too easy and your son is not academically challenged.
Perhaps you wouldn't feel that way if you sent your son to school on time. I bet my daughter would look really talented too if she were compared to kids much younger- rather than just a hardworking kid.

you sound like a troll who has made this up because its the cliched cry of "my son was RS but now he's not challenged!" which everyone always goes to on here, whether they have experienced it in reality, or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They say boys are 6-12 months behind girls at young ages. So her son is really more like 5-11 months older than your DD.

BS

-- The mother of a daughter and a son

+1, also mother of daughter and son.

+2

The mother of two sons. I have one son who is a June baby - he would be a complete disaster if I held him back a year (he is on the immature side of normal). I can't even imagine the grief he would give his teacher if I held him back a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop shouting. This parent does not read this board and you are hurting everyone else's ears. Vent without the caps, please.

Don't be precious. She can't hurt your ears. She is typing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They say boys are 6-12 months behind girls at young ages. So her son is really more like 5-11 months older than your DD.

BS

-- The mother of a daughter and a son

+1, also mother of daughter and son.

+2

The mother of two sons. I have one son who is a June baby - he would be a complete disaster if I held him back a year (he is on the immature side of normal). I can't even imagine the grief he would give his teacher if I held him back a year.

+3 another mom of a son and daughter, both summer bdays. Boy is in a gifted program. I would definitely be "that" mom if I had held him back, complaining about how it's not challenging enough. Or DS would coast through ES, at least, never having to try, and turn out lazy. That would be bad, too. I asked DS if he thinks I should've held him back; he's now in MS. He gave me a "are you crazy" look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I completely understand your frustration, OP.
Please don't lump all redshirted kids together, however.

Redshirting is one of the first thing pediatricians and parents think about when their child has unspecified but very real challenges. The thinking is that they need more time to mature. And then perhaps they are fine where they are, or become bored, or the issues crystallize and a diagnosis with specific treatment becomes possible.

The problem with our educational system is that it is too rigid. Children's development is not linear and not everyone develops at the same rate. I have particular issue with MCPS's policy to never* repeat or skip ahead. My own child repeated AND skipped ahead in MCPS, but his case was very complex. I know it is extremely rare, however, and that other children who desperately need such an accommodation are denied it.

I think redshirting is becoming too frequent, but it should remain as one of the possible options on a case-by-case basis, and that repeating grades and skipping ahead should also be options as well.

I don't think OP is talking to someone who does this in the measured way that you are talking about. The salient point is that the parent is now *complaining* about lack of challenge. Very, very annoying.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, OP.

You know what's worse? The red shirt mom who brags about how "gifted" her kid is. He's 17 months older...of course he should be ahead of the curve! But they're never gifted. And their "immaturity" typically has more to do with behavior issues/being spoiled.

But, whatevs.

[Anonymous]

I'm a mom of a kid that was held back for social reasons. I never complain my kid is not challenged. I get it, I'm not allowed to complain at all. Trust me, you say you can't say anything publicly. But plenty of moms have no problem saying "oh wait, he's 7....don't you mean 6? That's weird isn't it." Yes, I get it. You caught on we held him back. We were obviously trying to hide it with our b-day invite that said "7th b-day party" (or whatever year it is).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom of a kid that was held back for social reasons. I never complain my kid is not challenged. I get it, I'm not allowed to complain at all. Trust me, you say you can't say anything publicly. But plenty of moms have no problem saying "oh wait, he's 7....don't you mean 6? That's weird isn't it." Yes, I get it. You caught on we held him back. We were obviously trying to hide it with our b-day invite that said "7th b-day party" (or whatever year it is).

Huh? English, please.

[Anonymous]

I do not understand holding a child back for social reasons. If you hold a child back and keep him or her with kids 1-2 years younger, you cannot complain they are immature as you are keeping them with kids who are far younger and do not have the social skills that can help them advance. Your chid will always be behind age/socially as they haven't been given the opportunity to mature and be with peers who may be what others consider more "mature."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They say boys are 6-12 months behind girls at young ages. So her son is really more like 5-11 months older than your DD.

BS

-- The mother of a daughter and a son

+1, also mother of daughter and son.

+2, also mother of boy and girl