How's 3rd grade going socially?

[Anonymous]

Third grade has been the best year yet socially for DS. He's finally blossomed, is confident, has a settled group of friends (5-6) but seems to get along well with everyone. No bullies in the class, which of course is key.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP you must have a girl.

The whole I'm your friend this week, but not next, is a girl thing.

My DD has the same - she likes most of the kids in her class (except the girl who frequently kicks her or shoves her when the teacher isn't looking!) and has one friend who is her best bestie and then her worst worstie.

The boys are more straightforward.

There is talk about "liking" people in class. Mainly I believe, motivated by some of the more mature girls in class.

OP here. No, it's boys doing this. You did make me remember 2 girls last year shouted at him "go away! We are having a private conversation." The next day, one of them came up to him all nervous and asked him if he would be her boyfriend. He told her she already was his friend. She said he had to tell her he loved her and play with her at recess. He went along. It lasted about 2 weeks. She started talking marriage and he wasn't ready to think about that.

Thanks for this. It always amazes me when parents assume this is a "girl thing". It's not. It's a "7-10 year old" thing.

In DD's class, the boys happen to be worse than the girls when it comes to social dynamics and cliques. But in some of the other classes, it's the reverse. Depends on the kids.

OP here thanks. You hear so much about relational aggression among girls, but it does seem to happen with boys too. I found the same thing-some years it's not an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Third grade has been the best year yet socially for DS. He's finally blossomed, is confident, has a settled group of friends (5-6) but seems to get along well with everyone. No bullies in the class, which of course is key.

OP again. Great to hear. Gives me hope.

[Anonymous]

My son has a handful of friends. Doesn't seem to have any issues. Can't (or won't) remember names of girls in his class. I'm not sure they exist for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you must have a girl.

The whole I'm your friend this week, but not next, is a girl thing.

My DD has the same - she likes most of the kids in her class (except the girl who frequently kicks her or shoves her when the teacher isn't looking!) and has one friend who is her best bestie and then her worst worstie.

The boys are more straightforward.

There is talk about "liking" people in class. Mainly I believe, motivated by some of the more mature girls in class.

OP here. No, it's boys doing this. You did make me remember 2 girls last year shouted at him "go away! We are having a private conversation." The next day, one of them came up to him all nervous and asked him if he would be her boyfriend. He told her she already was his friend. She said he had to tell her he loved her and play with her at recess. He went along. It lasted about 2 weeks. She started talking marriage and he wasn't ready to think about that.

You are bizarrely involved in your kid's social life. I'm thinking you must be socially awkward yourself and are living your own social anxieties through your child.

WTH?? Np here and it sounds like this mom has a normal involvement. Kids come home and tell you about their day and what happened. To a kid, this event is a big deal even if to us as adults it seems silly.