I hate my mother
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Anonymous
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OP, I'm so sorry. In cases of abuse, cutting a parent out of your life may be the healthiest option in the long run. She doesn't seem willing/able to admit any wrongdoing, and she's just hurting you over and over again.
Your sibling are old enough that you will likely be able to maintain a relationship with them...and perhaps you can use your step dad as an intermediary since it sounds like you've got a good relationship with them. I know it may be financially difficult, but I think it's for the best you won't be staying in their house even temporarily. |
Anonymous
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Well, sorry to note but you seem to hate her and are pitching a fit because you aren't getting what you want - to move into her house again for three months.
You don't seem to have mastered the arts of diplomacy or self reflection so do you really think it would be a good idea to live at home for three months? You DON'T seem to get along with your mother currently so it seems like a horrible idea, she's right. |
Anonymous
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OP who in their right mind would invite you to stay for 3 months when you are so negative?
Your mom has two younger children in the house who are apparently getting along pretty well. You, on the other hand, don't have anything nice to say. You seem to stir the pot a lot. If you lived there that family would probably be in a state of tumult for years. Try to have nice things to says d be pleasant and try to unite people instead of having people draw battle lines? |
Anonymous
Op here- I'm not too sure where you are getting any of what you said from. I've dealt with years and years of both physical and emotional abuse from my mother. Years of her calling me awful names, putting me down, hitting and kicking me, throwing glasses at my head when she got angry that I left for school and didn't make my bed.....stuff like that. I moved out of their house when I was 20 and have been on my own ever since then. I'm moving out of state at the end of August and instead of renting something temporarily, my step dad suggested I just move in with them for a few months to not have to worry about renting short term. My mother travels for work and is gone 3-5 days out of the week so I didn't initially think it would be a big deal especially since I myself work from 8:30am-6:00pm every day so I'd barely even be in their house. She chose to call me today out of the blue to just flat out tell me I was not moving in because "you and I don't get along" when in reality, it's her that can't get along with anyone. She openly jokes with her friends how her and my step dad argue non stop, etc. She's truly a nasty person and the saddest part of it all is that my 14 year old sister is slowly drifting away from her because she herself doesn't like my mom at times. So again, not sure where you are getting your accusations from on me storing the pot or being negative or saying bad things. Everything I say about her is 100% the truth. |
Anonymous
Op here- yes, I see a therapist. I've been going to him for about 2 months now and he's helped tremendously. |
Anonymous
You are a sick troll. |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry that has been your experience. But for your age, I would have thought it was my friend posting their experiences. The parallels are uncanny.
Be strong and find others who will love you. You sound like a great person to me. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the PPs that you never had the mother you deserved and you are so very worthy of being loved. I'm glad you've got a counselor to help you work through these issues and determine what's healthiest for you. I do hope you can maintain a relationship with your siblings because even though you said you feel like they're her 'do-over' children, it sounds like they, too, have witnessed or experienced her unacceptable behavior. Hugs and best of luck. You don't need her in your life. |