Advice on how to deal with truant,pot smoking teen neighbor

[Anonymous]

Hire him to do work around your house and yard, and keep him busy all summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hire him to do work around your house and yard, and keep him busy all summer.

He'll just buy more weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This boys life is miserable, he smokes pot to self medicate, its not a big deal, and you want to dial up the drama for him? No. Just pray for him and his mother and leave it alone. Plus, you dont know what a mentally ill neighbor with nothing to do alllllll day long every day can do to make your life hell. Or her son for that matter. Think shit on your step. Broken mailbox. Brick in your window. Brick thru your windshield. Loud parties screaming at your window to piss you off. Beating up your kids. . .Id stay away.

This is loser advice. Call the cops, they will zealously protect your anonymity. I would not call the school, I would not expect the same level of security over your anonymity at a school.

The above poster has no idea what they are talking about. You are throwing that kid a life line by reporting him. The long term effects of drug dealing are life altering, right now he is 16 his record can be expunged.

[Anonymous]

Offer to help him with homework. Or drop a meal off periodically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This boys life is miserable, he smokes pot to self medicate, its not a big deal, and you want to dial up the drama for him? No. Just pray for him and his mother and leave it alone. Plus, you dont know what a mentally ill neighbor with nothing to do alllllll day long every day can do to make your life hell. Or her son for that matter. Think shit on your step. Broken mailbox. Brick in your window. Brick thru your windshield. Loud parties screaming at your window to piss you off. Beating up your kids. . .Id stay away.

This is loser advice. Call the cops, they will zealously protect your anonymity. I would not call the school, I would not expect the same level of security over your anonymity at a school.

The above poster has no idea what they are talking about. You are throwing that kid a life line by reporting him. The long term effects of drug dealing are life altering, right now he is 16 his record can be expunged.

Cops screw this up, or can't actually do anything, ALL THE TIME.

But other than this, I agree. This kid has no reason to stop, unless the cops make him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in this kind of environment.

Car traffic does equal drug dealing. Stop in, smoke a sample and buy a bag. That is exactly what is happening. He's doing it where he lives, he is not smart o4 operating like he wants to protect himself.

Things to look forward to: he gets robbed for cash or pot, hopefully you and your family don't get in the way. That's why drug dealers meet in public spaces to keep their homes safe.

Pot dealers usually move up to sell other harder drugs, profit margin is larger on harder drugs, harder drugs are easier to cut and stretch profit. These are the types of people who may be under the influence who are next door to you.

Your house/car may be getting broken into. It's not like you are living next to a drug cartel, its just that drug users are not the smartest and these are the people who are in your neighborhood now.

Be nice to the kid's face but start contacting the police and continually report suspicious behavior. You are doing him a favor, I can't count the amount of people I knew growing up who are dead, or became repeat offenders and in prison, or had jobs and eventually lost everything they had.

whatever you do.... TELL NO ONE IN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD, OR YOUR KIDS THAT YOU ARE REPORTING.
this is not just a little pot smoking, when it scales up to dealing from your home it starts getting dangerous.

Excellent advice. Take it, OP!

+2 Drug buyers start loitering and neighbors become vulnerable to theft, etc. Your neighbor is an inexperienced teen "dealer" dealing and partying in his own home with his disabled parent present.

He is also putting his family and his neighbors at risk of violence; some buyers carry weapons.

[Anonymous]

Oh please. Potheads buying eighths aren't firing guns at people in the neighborhood.

Still a nuisance that I'm afraid won't stop without help from the cops.

[Anonymous]

Another +1 to call the cops anonymously. Not because the kid should be punished. But because if he is going to have any chance of getting an education, getting out of what sounds like a terrible living situation and not escalating to more serious crimes, your offering him PT work or taking over meals isn't enough. He needs larger scale intervention. There are lots of programs for kids this age on the wrong path to help them turn their life around. But he won't do any of these things unless the Court forces him to. If this is how he was raised, he may not know any other way. He may not be able to be saved. But who knows? Maybe he can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh please. Potheads buying eighths aren't firing guns at people in the neighborhood.

Still a nuisance that I'm afraid won't stop without help from the cops.

You probably smoked a little pot in college and think you know what you are talking about. You don't what you are talking about.

I've had friends, friend's mothers and fathers, and my own half sister die from drug use. As a young adult a friend's finance was put on his knees and shot execution style for not paying for a large quantity of fronted marijuana. I've been to visit people in psych wards, rehabs and prisons, I literally could go on and on.

My family home was broken into twice by teen neighborhood drug users, all of our family jewelry and everything of value was stolen. Police knew who did it, a close family friend was a police detective, but the evidence was too circumstantial. I had to ride my high school bus with the kids that I knew broke into our house.

I would not put up with that shit next door to me and anyone that would is a fool.

[Anonymous]

I had to tell a coworker that his wife was sleeping around. I really did not want to do it but I knew it was the right thing to do.

I went to Walmart and bought a $25 prepaid cell phone and a $10 voice changer in cash. I called this man and told him that his wife had slept with multiple people that I know of and that the should know it. I was able to back up my story and provide him with real details that supported my story. I told him that he could call me back for up to a week with any questions but after that point I planned on destroying the phone.

He did call back once and asked a bunch of questions, so that I knew and others that I was not sure of. At the end of the conversation he tried to turn the tables and blame it on me for telling him. If I told him in person or let him know who I was, I would have had a real problem at work.

Your problem would be blowback where you live! I would tell noone and call the police every-time that I saw something but only with the burner phone and with my voice changed. Never trust the police to keep your identity secret as they may let it slip or let it be know intentionally in order to put some pressure on this person. When the burner is not in use, take out the battery and store in a safe location. Don't let anyone know about the phone (kid, neighbor, friend, priest, spouse ... ANYONE!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had to tell a coworker that his wife was sleeping around. I really did not want to do it but I knew it was the right thing to do.

I went to Walmart and bought a $25 prepaid cell phone and a $10 voice changer in cash. I called this man and told him that his wife had slept with multiple people that I know of and that the should know it. I was able to back up my story and provide him with real details that supported my story. I told him that he could call me back for up to a week with any questions but after that point I planned on destroying the phone.

He did call back once and asked a bunch of questions, so that I knew and others that I was not sure of. At the end of the conversation he tried to turn the tables and blame it on me for telling him. If I told him in person or let him know who I was, I would have had a real problem at work.

Your problem would be blowback where you live! I would tell noone and call the police every-time that I saw something but only with the burner phone and with my voice changed. Never trust the police to keep your identity secret as they may let it slip or let it be know intentionally in order to put some pressure on this person. When the burner is not in use, take out the battery and store in a safe location. Don't let anyone know about the phone (kid, neighbor, friend, priest, spouse ... ANYONE!).

Do not use it or turn it on at your home or office as the calls or texts can be geotracked. Drive to a busy location - McDonalds, Safeway, etc and call from the parking lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in this kind of environment.

Car traffic does equal drug dealing. Stop in, smoke a sample and buy a bag. That is exactly what is happening. He's doing it where he lives, he is not smart o4 operating like he wants to protect himself.

Things to look forward to: he gets robbed for cash or pot, hopefully you and your family don't get in the way. That's why drug dealers meet in public spaces to keep their homes safe.

Pot dealers usually move up to sell other harder drugs, profit margin is larger on harder drugs, harder drugs are easier to cut and stretch profit. These are the types of people who may be under the influence who are next door to you.

Your house/car may be getting broken into. It's not like you are living next to a drug cartel, its just that drug users are not the smartest and these are the people who are in your neighborhood now.

Be nice to the kid's face but start contacting the police and continually report suspicious behavior. You are doing him a favor, I can't count the amount of people I knew growing up who are dead, or became repeat offenders and in prison, or had jobs and eventually lost everything they had.

whatever you do.... TELL NO ONE IN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD, OR YOUR KIDS THAT YOU ARE REPORTING.
this is not just a little pot smoking, when it scales up to dealing from your home it starts getting dangerous.

Yes, good advice.

[Anonymous]

While you are Walmart, buy a small game camera to photograph the comings and goings.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP, I am giving you my advice as a mother, homeowner and a former pothead. I smoked pot like it was my job when I was in high school and college and sold sometimes. Not regularly but if I had friends who needed some or I had the opportunity to buy a large amount at a good price. Not saying That this means that I know what I am taking about, but probably more so than some other posters.

You don't know that your neighbor kid is just selling an eighth (or dimebag, if they even do that anymore) to his friends here and there, or whether he is moving more. You don't know if he is selling to/buying from his middle class suburban friends or whether he has widened his customer base. You don't know if he is only selling/smoking pot or if he is branching out into other drugs. You also don't know how good his judgement is or how good the judgement is of his friends and "business associates".

Call the cops. Call anonymously and don't let anyone know you did it. Call from a pay phone if you can find one anymore. You need to protect yourself and your family. And since you don't know the true situation next door or whether it is going to escalate from just a kid selling some weed and smoking in the backyard to something more, you need to pass the info that you have along to someone who can help. A trained law enforcement professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had to tell a coworker that his wife was sleeping around. I really did not want to do it but I knew it was the right thing to do.

I went to Walmart and bought a $25 prepaid cell phone and a $10 voice changer in cash. I called this man and told him that his wife had slept with multiple people that I know of and that the should know it. I was able to back up my story and provide him with real details that supported my story. I told him that he could call me back for up to a week with any questions but after that point I planned on destroying the phone.

He did call back once and asked a bunch of questions, so that I knew and others that I was not sure of. At the end of the conversation he tried to turn the tables and blame it on me for telling him. If I told him in person or let him know who I was, I would have had a real problem at work.

Your problem would be blowback where you live! I would tell noone and call the police every-time that I saw something but only with the burner phone and with my voice changed. Never trust the police to keep your identity secret as they may let it slip or let it be know intentionally in order to put some pressure on this person. When the burner is not in use, take out the battery and store in a safe location. Don't let anyone know about the phone (kid, neighbor, friend, priest, spouse ... ANYONE!).

Do not use it or turn it on at your home or office as the calls or texts can be geotracked. Drive to a busy location - McDonalds, Safeway, etc and call from the parking lot.

Damn. I would never think of shit like this. I would do this OP.

You're doing the kid a favor and I truly believe that. Also, it's not a MYOB situation. This kid could impact your family's safety. So even if you don't give a shit about the kid (and it sounds like you do), I'd still call the police.