My son wants to get an earring for his birthday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's an odd choice. It's not 1991 anymore where a guy having one piercing is cool anymore.

I worry he'll be viewed as weird, rather than cool. I'd get him a magnetic earring and let him walk around for a week with that first, to make sure it gives him the confidence he thinks it will, and that he gets the reaction he expects.

Who knows more about what twelve-year-olds these days consider cool, you or a twelve-year-old?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's an odd choice. It's not 1991 anymore where a guy having one piercing is cool anymore.

I worry he'll be viewed as weird, rather than cool. I'd get him a magnetic earring and let him walk around for a week with that first, to make sure it gives him the confidence he thinks it will, and that he gets the reaction he expects.

Who knows more about what twelve-year-olds these days consider cool, you or a twelve-year-old?

Well I have a just-turned 13 yr old, so I'm pretty on top of things. None of her friends who are boys have earrings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would let him get it done.

Why?

It's not permanent. What's the harm?

What's the harm in allowing a six year old to do the same thing?

[Anonymous]

It's not about age. It's about

* if the kid wants it
* if the kid is responsible enough to keep it clean
* if the kid can handle any possible repercussions (teasing, etc.--he's not applying for jobs yet, but could always remove it when he's ready for that if he needs to)

Given what you said, I'd let him try it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let him get it done.

Why?

It's not permanent. What's the harm?

What's the harm in allowing a six year old to do the same thing?

Be open mind because there are bigger battles ahead. It's not like he wants to get inked.

[Anonymous]

As long as I am supporting my children financially, any decisions they make to permanently alter their physical appearances, including body piercing, is subject to my final decision.

As soon as they are on their own after college, they can do as they wish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let him get it done.

Why?

It's not permanent. What's the harm?

It most certainly is permanent. I had second and third holes put in my ears in 1990, and stopped wearing earrings in them in the mid-90s. That was 20 years ago and they have not closed - and are noticeable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as I am supporting my children financially, any decisions they make to permanently alter their physical appearances, including body piercing, is subject to my final decision.

As soon as they are on their own after college, they can do as they wish.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP, if it's hard to say "no" to a 12 year old, how will you say no when he gets older? You will have abdicated all parental responsibility. Get a backbone, PDQ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if it's hard to say "no" to a 12 year old, how will you say no when he gets older? You will have abdicated all parental responsibility. Get a backbone, PDQ.

Where did OP say that it's hard to say no to a 12-year-old about everything? If my 12-year-old asked me about pierced ears, I wouldn't say no, because I have no reason to say no. Whereas I do say no about plenty of other things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's an odd choice. It's not 1991 anymore where a guy having one piercing is cool anymore.

I worry he'll be viewed as weird, rather than cool. I'd get him a magnetic earring and let him walk around for a week with that first, to make sure it gives him the confidence he thinks it will, and that he gets the reaction he expects.

Who knows more about what twelve-year-olds these days consider cool, you or a twelve-year-old?

Well I have a just-turned 13 yr old, so I'm pretty on top of things. None of her friends who are boys have earrings.

That's like me saying, "All of my 13-year-old's friends have smart phones, so all 13-year-olds have smart phones." But actually not all 13-year-olds have smart phones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does grades have to do with getting his ears pierced? I would say no regardless. I asked my husband if he would let our son get his ears pierced and he said what next, he wants to wear a thong and you would let him?

Your husband is an ahole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let him get it done.

Why?

It's not permanent. What's the harm?

It most certainly is permanent. I had second and third holes put in my ears in 1990, and stopped wearing earrings in them in the mid-90s. That was 20 years ago and they have not closed - and are noticeable.

I meant that the earring is not permanent. I have holes in my ears also (got them at 4 with a needle and a hot stove and some ice cubes) and rarely wear earrings. I guess people could notice the hole, but I wouldn't consider that a big deal. I've also got a little scar on my leg and another on my arm.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DS will be turning 12 in a few weeks and wants his ears pierced. He wants both pierced but is fine with only his left ear. Dh isn't thrilled with the idea but he's maintaining all A's and B's in school and is well behaved for his age. It's going to be hard to say "no" to him. He says he wants to step up his swag.

When did maintaining As and Bs become the standard for when kids can start mutilating their bodies?

Do you think most women these days are mutilating their bodies when they get their ears pierced? If so, you have a very odd minority perspective. If not, you are sexist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does grades have to do with getting his ears pierced? I would say no regardless. I asked my husband if he would let our son get ears pierced and he said whats next, he wants to wear a thong and you would let him?

DC parents are such whiners. Let him get them pierced. I would only say no to the gauged earlobes because those require surgery to repair. He sounds responsible and you should reward such behavior