How long until you were attracted to someone?

[Anonymous]

to be honest, OP. You're in the same boat that most middle-aged men are. Most of them aren't into post menopausal women. This is where so many of them go into a mid-life crisis, and try to attract a younger woman. Getting old is hard for everyone.

I'm not sure what the answer is, except to try to be patient and not force anything. A lot of middle-aged women suggest make dating into a second job. Basically, just try to meet a lot of men until you find one that you feel attracted to. Pickin's may be slim, but if you cast a wide enough net, you might find a catch.

[Anonymous]

I've never stopped finding men of varied ages attractive. I'm in my late forties and have been dating men in their forties and fifties. They may be past their physical prime, but they still have sex appeal (even though my friends both male and female think I'm "too hot" for some of them). And some of them are still in good shape.

It is true that men tend to let themselves go more than women and it's more difficult to find men who are matched in attractiveness to a woman who hasn't let herself go, but there are attractive older men out there. You'll feel it once you're ready to get out there again.

[Anonymous]

Attractive men almost immediately cause me to take notice. 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and I've seen some guys in their 60s that cause me to do a double take.

[Anonymous]

Did you find any other men attractive while you were married? Trying to figure out if you are the type of woman who ever finds other men 'hot' or not. If not your attraction may come from a place that's more about companionship, and I think you can definitely find that again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you find any other men attractive while you were married? Trying to figure out if you are the type of woman who ever finds other men 'hot' or not. If not your attraction may come from a place that's more about companionship, and I think you can definitely find that again.

Nope. When I was married, the only person I was attracted to was my husband. In 30 years, I never once felt attracted to another person-- man or woman.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a low sex drive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You just need something new. Try a black man

Ha! This made me smile

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a low sex drive?

Nope. DH and I had an active sex life. 3-4x per week. 2-3 times would be multiple times per night.

[Anonymous]

If the separation isn't something you want, it will definitely take time to resolve your feelings, move on, and then meet someone new. When you do connect with someone new it will likely be an emotional connection, which isn't the same as a "sure I'd hit that" connection. Do some therapy, give yourself time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you still love your husband why are you separating?

Not my choice.

A www, that's sad. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you find any other men attractive while you were married? Trying to figure out if you are the type of woman who ever finds other men 'hot' or not. If not your attraction may come from a place that's more about companionship, and I think you can definitely find that again.

Nope. When I was married, the only person I was attracted to was my husband. In 30 years, I never once felt attracted to another person-- man or woman.

I'm the same way. If DH ran off I'd feel the same way.
We are similar - lots of sex, I find DH very attractive similar age.
If it happened to me I'd take a break and focus on a puppy or something .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you find any other men attractive while you were married? Trying to figure out if you are the type of woman who ever finds other men 'hot' or not. If not your attraction may come from a place that's more about companionship, and I think you can definitely find that again.

Nope. When I was married, the only person I was attracted to was my husband. In 30 years, I never once felt attracted to another person-- man or woman.

I'm the same way. If DH ran off I'd feel the same way.
We are similar - lots of sex, I find DH very attractive similar age.
If it happened to me I'd take a break and focus on a puppy or something .

[Anonymous]

Wow. If you haven't been attracted to anyone else in 30 years, this is going to be tough. I don't know what to say - I think that's really unusual. I've been married for 11 years and I've almost always had a crush. I'm a woman.

[Anonymous]

OP, you could get a medical checkup. It's also possible that there could be a hormonal thing going on.

It's not unusual for divorced women to stay single and be seemingly content with that. I have relatives who never remarried. Maybe you can take the opportunity to try out projects that you didn't have a chance to because you were busy in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eeeew 50 is old and wrinkly.

And you will be too someday. If you are lucky.