How to handle this un-invitation?

[Anonymous]

Your friend is a BITCH. I would not associate with her, ever. If it's an adult only setting - fine. If other kids are there, she is completely unreasonable unless your kids have violence issues or something.

In the future I would suggest when you plan MNO you pick the venue (your home or a neutral place) and that you not invite this diva.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I can see everyone's side of this. I hate when kids who don't play well with the group end up over at our house because it really isn't fun for the adults and the purpose of this party is for the adults to have fun. OTOH, when you're a single mom without money for a sitter, it's a sucky thing to do. Despite how I feel, I would never do that to one of my friends. Any possibility of a playdate or sleep over for your daughter with one of her friends?

Why? So she can attend an event hosted by an insensitive, hypocritical asshole?

[Anonymous]

OP said they can tolerate each other for a few hours so I'm assuming they aren't beating each other over the head. The hosting mom should have nicely brought up the issue and suggested you bring something to entertain your kids (or all the kids) like a movie. I mean honestly - it sounds like her kids are just as big an issue, maybe they should leave the house for the duration?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stay home with your child. Next time she brings up the fact that it was your idea say, "Winnie, I know it was my idea and was actually really looking forward to it, but I am a single mom and I cannot leave my child alone to go do something that is also open to children. You are correct that our kids are not best friends and also within your rights as a hostess to not invite my child, but as a mom, I have to take into account my child's feelings too. Your children can exclude my daughter, but I cannot exclude my child. I am sorry but I will have to decline."
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perfect.

[Anonymous]

+1 to the suggestion above.

[Anonymous]

Is there any history of something bad happening between the girls like hitting biting major tantrumming? She should have said no kids rather than include some and refuse others - terrible

[Anonymous]

OP here. My daughter looks up to older girls and wants to play with them, so she ends up following them around and being clingy. Completely normal for her to do that, and normal for the older girls to find it annoying. But its not a deal breaker for one evening in my opinion. This "friend" is also a colleague so that adds another layer of consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My daughter looks up to older girls and wants to play with them, so she ends up following them around and being clingy. Completely normal for her to do that, and normal for the older girls to find it annoying. But its not a deal breaker for one evening in my opinion. This "friend" is also a colleague so that adds another layer of consideration.

Do some spring cleaning and throw away this friendship, if that's what it is. Too much trouble.

[Anonymous]

In that case, be cordial at work but otherwise lose her number. She's a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Stay home. Your friend is a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Use this as a chance to analyze -- is your kids' behavior that big of a problem, or does she just not click with those kids? If your child really is that much of a problem (not saying she is) then use this as a wake up call.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Your dd is 6! 6 years old. Who excludes a 6 year old for a couple hours? A mean girl, that's who. How awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend is a BITCH. I would not associate with her, ever. If it's an adult only setting - fine. If other kids are there, she is completely unreasonable unless your kids have violence issues or something.

In the future I would suggest when you plan MNO you pick the venue (your home or a neutral place) and that you not invite this diva.

Agreed. I wonder if her daughters learned their mean girl behavior from their mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In that case, be cordial at work but otherwise lose her number. She's a jerk.

Seriously. This lady goes straight back to the Coworker only column.

Freakin A, man, who is this much of a jerk to/about a 6 year old that isn't being physically destructive/violent? Your kid hits all the other kids and you do nothing about it? Sure, go ahead and ask that she not come. But "clingy" with the older girls? What a nasty piece of work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your friend is a BITCH. I would not associate with her, ever. If it's an adult only setting - fine. If other kids are there, she is completely unreasonable unless your kids have violence issues or something.

In the future I would suggest when you plan MNO you pick the venue (your home or a neutral place) and that you not invite this diva.

Agreed. I wonder if her daughters learned their mean girl behavior from their mom

Yes, of course they do.